I have a confession to make. I have a tendency to lash out when I’m in physical or emotional pain. I suspect I’m not alone.

I have been under the weather for the past 4 days and got to see parts of me that I do not like. The real discovery is that I got to embrace those parts. That means I got to notice them while they were in action. That afforded me the opportunity to head them off at the pass so they didn’t totally take me over and pretend to be me.

Who do we lash out at when we’re in pain? – Usually those closest to us.

Why do we lash? My suspicion is to make someone else responsible for the pain we are feeling. We want them to feel the pain too so they know how much we’re hurting.

One thing’s for sure – A person lashing out is in pain. If their lashing out is a way of life, then they are in severe pain.

The discovery for me is that our pain is our pain and that our attempt to share it is in vain. Lashing out will never get you out of pain.

Our pain is ours to deal with. We may seek assistance from a physician or counselor, but when all the wisdom is doled out, it’s still us that have to address our pain without attempting to send it to another address.

I’m not sure I have a purpose in writing this other than to say, if you notice yourself lashing out, take a moment to notice and acknowledge the underlying pain. It has a way of helping you metabolize it without looking for a whipping boy.

All the best,

John

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