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October 20, 2020

The Grand Illusion

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 7:38 am

Frank busch 4aqYzVwTpG0 unsplashYears ago, I wrote this: “The grandest illusion of them all is attempting to explain away reality.”

When I saw this quote this morning, I was reminded of how much spin we attempt to put on reality, to reinforce a personal point of pontification that is as weak as a cardboard box in the rain.

Reality has no governor. It’s a stark, undeniable, un-refutable, emperor has no clothes, fact.

I’m reminded of one of my favorite quotes from the book Ishmael: “We can argue about it for a thousand years, but there’s never going to be an argument powerful enough to end the argument, because every argument has a counterargument.”

That said, there is no argument that will counter reality.

When we wear rose-colored glasses, we are attempting to change the look of reality – to reframe it so it looks like what we want to see vs. what is really there. You can shade yourself from the sun, but not from the heat- seeking missile known as reality.

Reality has a way of sticking around and bringing your knees to the ground, especially when you attempt to explain it away.

If you doubt that denial of reality is rampant, talk to any elementary school teacher about their discussions regarding a student’s behavior with the child’s parents. The teacher presents a hard, cold, fact: “Your son punched a girl in the face on the playground.” As improbable as it seems, there will be no lack of arguments coming from the parents justifying why their son shouldn’t be suspended.

I guess the reminder to us all is to stop hiding behind our protest placards for a moment and take a look at what’s really happening in the moment. Just notice the situation without explanation, and you’ll put a pin in the grand illusion bubble, instead of arguing to the point where the only thing left is rubble.

All the best,

John

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October 17, 2020

What Makes A Difference? – Recorded Version

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Here is the recorded version of the Grasshopper Note for the week of 10-19-20.

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October 15, 2020

STALE

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 5:14 am

The HookThe word “Stale” popped into my mind this morning, but it appeared as an acronym – S.T.A.L.E. I have no idea what it means, so let me explore it on the fly.

S. So Yesterday.

T. Tired

A. All Washed Up

L. Laborious

E. Exit

Let’s go a little bit deeper.

S. I think of the once popular comedian who has no new material and is dependent on the laurels he is now sleeping on. The only people in the audience are the fans of the days of yore. To everyone else he’s a bombastic bore.

T. Totally trite with lots of bark but no bite.

A. Shrunk from way too many washings. What once fit has now been reduced to a size that reveals what’s really underneath.

L. It takes them a long time to get to a cogent point while meandering all over the joint.

E. Back in the days of vaudeville, when you were bombing on stage, they brought out the hook to yank you off, which meant there was no chance you would ever get rebooked.

I believe this STALE acronym is a reminder to inspect our own act, not just that of another. The question is: Are we sailing towards port or are we a ship without a rudder?

All the best,

John

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October 14, 2020

Fair is a Fairy Tale

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 7:39 am

FairHere is one of the first Grasshopper Notes I wrote way back in the day, and it’s even more relevant today.

Fair is a Fairy Tale – Grasshopper

Did you ever notice that Reality doesn’t ask your opinion before taking action? Reality does what it does and we have a reaction. We may be elated if Reality has us win the Grasshopper High Jump Sweepstakes or deflated if we have the losing ticket.

When we experience deflation, our reaction may be, “this isn’t fair.”

Fair is a judgement word. We begin judging reality and we have been conditioned to think that our critical dissertation will have an effect on the circumstances that have already happened. That’s as impractical as trying to get the water back into the hose once you’ve sprayed your car.

This is the type of Fun House Mirror Logic that we use anytime we buy into the concept of fair. Fair is a distortion. It doesn’t exist (except in baseball).
Fair is always an interpretation of reality and a knee-jerk reaction.

Responding to reality is always the answer. The difference between a reaction and a response is like the disparity between a Da vinci painting and a Velvet Elvis. A response will come from a calmer place where the emotion of the moment won’t rule the day.

When the Grasshopper spoke through the great teacher, Jerry Stocking he said, “A reaction is your first response to a stimulus.” Jerry invites you to explore the inexhaustible list of additional responses that are lined up behind your first response. Each time you take a moment to consider a response that isn’t so top of mind, like your first response, you go to a deeper place.

This practice has two additional benefits:

1.You interrupt your patterned way of doing things which may not be getting you the results you want.

2.You become the stimulus vs. being the response ?” the initiator vs. the reactor.

This way of responding will also dissolve our distorted concept of fair and leave it in Grimm’s book where it belongs. Fair enough?

All the best,

John

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October 13, 2020

The Glue of Certainty

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 5:10 am

Anne nygard Bdr3SOfMpQ0 unsplash“What you knew keeps you from learning something new.” That’s what the Grasshopper had to say at the crack of dawn today.

It sounded like a new reminder but it’s actually based on a 2007 Grasshopper Note called Know Less, Discover More.

Certainty is like cement. It keeps you stuck in place with nowhere new to go. It gives new meaning to the word “Blockhead.” You’re blocking your head from accepting any new information that could broaden your view, and quite possibly teach you something new.

Pursuing “new” for newness sake is just adding the latest shiny toy to your collection. This reminder is more about subtraction – subtracting what you know, giving you ample room to grow.

It’s like the old closet cleaning exercise. The universe seems to favor a vacuum. When you clean out your closet, you create a space for something new. Notice that you add new wardrobe items, not worn threads of the past.

“Damn sure” and “I’m certain” cloak you in old garb – making an unmistakable fashion statement. Think of a person you know that still has the same fad hairdo from high school going on. Notice too, that they’re locked in a mindset that hardly allows anything new.

Examine your certainties in the light of day and you may discover that what you knew is losing some of it’s glue, giving you the freedom to learn something new.

All the best,

John

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October 11, 2020

The AYES Are A Disguise – Recorded Version

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 7:47 am

Here is the recorded version of the Grasshopper Note for the week of 10-12-20.

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October 9, 2020

“As I’ve Always Said”

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 3:31 am

On Flashback Friday, here’s something I posted in January 2019. This will forever be the case with human behavior.

Get Dbusinessmanknowitallready! It’s coming! It’s a telling phrase: “As I’ve always said.”

You will be hearing “As I’ve always said” from people who said no such thing.

It will be the ass covering phrase of people who have been extremely vocal in favor of something or someone that can’t be defended anymore.

Their “as I’ve always said” claim will be that they never expressed such allegiance and will express a position they have never taken as the one they’ve been espousing all along.

Think of someone you know who was proven dead wrong, and when confronted with their position, they moved the goal post. The telling, goal post repositioning phrase will be some form of “as I’ve always said.”

It’ll be here soon. Be on the lookout. When you hear it, know you are listening to someone who can’t admit to or bear being wrong. They’re part of the “I’m sorry but” crowd – meaning they’re not really sorry.

Quoting Charles Barkley, “I may be wrong but I doubt it.”

All the best,

John

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October 7, 2020

The Transition from “Back in the Day” is Underway

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 5:55 am

Markus spiske iOE0qBkioc unsplashIf you have adult children with families of their own, you may not yet be aware of the change that has taken place. Even if you don’t have children, but you are of a certain age, this change has affected you as well.

What is this transition? Here’s how I capsulize it. “Our children used to live in our world; we now live in theirs.”

This may be especially hard to swallow if you are a “Baby Boomer.” The boomers were the driving force behind major shifts in the way we do things in this world. They are a large swath of the population used to doing things “their” way, more so than any other generation. “Their” way has been “the” way for longer than any other age group, so the amount of resistance they display to change is no surprise.

This shift has been going on for a while. The transfer of power is almost complete, being slowed only a bit by many of this aging generation who are dragging their feet.

The handwriting is on the wall and these folks know how to read, but denial won’t allow them to comprehend. I’m a proud member of this generation and in the past have been reluctant to accept the unrelenting future.

We are living in a different world that has snuck up on us like any other insidious change. Resistance only gives change persistence.

Even a mega power broker like Don Corleone, the Godfather, ceded control of “the way” to his son, who went in a different direction to get things done.

You do have a choice: you can circle the wagons and pontifically preach and pray that your way is the right way, OR get a clue that the way it is, is no longer dictated by you.

It’s this simple: Rant and rave to the grave about your way, or start to see the world you lived in has had its day.

All the best,

John

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October 5, 2020

The Truthful Elephant – Recorded Version

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 6:14 am

Here is the recorded version of the Grasshopper Note for the week of 10-5-20.

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October 1, 2020

Suppose They’re Right?

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 7:31 am

ArgumentThe Grasshopper gave me a new question to ask myself: “Suppose they’re right?”

How often do we dig in to our position without ever considering another’s angle of view?

I’ve told this story before but it fits perfectly here. I was attending a week long workshop about 20 years ago and got into a “discussion” with another attendee. We were on opposite sides of an issue and both of us were using our outside voices inside. Based on our backgrounds, I was the more experienced debater and easily boxed this person in and made them look stupid in front of our fellow attendees. This person stormed out.

My roommate said this to me after the altercation, “Dude, you really know how to throw a hand grenade under a table.” The room was uneasy.

About an hour passed and this person returned to our group and asked to speak to me alone. We went outside and had a more civil conversation. It was during this exchange that this phrase left my lips: “Ya know, if I were brought up in your house, I’d be exactly like you, and if you were brought up in my house, you’d be exactly like me.” It was an icebreaker. The bottom line is we “hugged it out” and became friendly.

“Suppose they’re right?” is a reminder to, as the song says, “walk a mile in my shoes.”

No matter how absurd you think another’s point of view is, take the time to ask yourself, “Suppose they’re right?” Just for a moment, explore how they got to this conclusion. What shaped their view? Make an effort to find out and you’ll discover more than someone with opposing views, you’ll find out why they think they’re right.

It can lead to a less heated and more factual discussion. When you discover how someone got to the point that they feel a certain way, you’re now finding out how they make decisions vs. deciding, out of hand, that they’re totally wrong.

I’m not suggesting that this strategy is going to bring either of you to the other side of the fence, or even start exchanging Christmas cards. What I am suggesting is, it’s a way to reduce the heat so you can discover more of the light. That’s the magic you create by asking yourself, “Suppose they’re right?”

All the best,

John

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