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April 12, 2021

People Don’t Change

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 5:32 am

Board 1273117 1920Personal change is a big business. It’s been part of my profession for over 40 years. But in that time, I’ve discovered something: People don’t change; they evolve.

This perspective came to me a number of years ago when I was chatting with a friend. He emphatically said, “People don’t change.” I took longer than usual to respond to his assertion and then I said, “I don’t think people change either, but they can evolve.”

But some people will never evolve. From birth to death, they’ll argue to stay the same until they run out of breath. You’ll instantly recognize these folks by this expression: “That’s just the way I am.” That’s your cue to save your breath.

You may have heard of a personality typing system known as the Enneagram. It lists 9 personality types and it’s a great tool for getting to know who you’re interacting with. I use it to get clues for which angle of approach to use when I attempt to enter a person’s model of the world so I can see things as they do.

Within each of the 9 enneagram personality types, there are 9 levels of development. They list them as “Healthy Levels,” “Average Levels,” and “Unhealthy Levels.” It’s a fascinating body of work that you can check out for yourself by going to their website: enneagraminstitute.com That’s e-n-n-e-a-g-r-a-m institute dot com.

I only mention the enneagram levels to point out that there are levels of evolvement within a personality type, adding validity to my notion that people don’t change, but they can evolve.

I guess my real message here is that it’s a fool’s errand to go looking for wholesale change with yourself or with another. That’s what I like to refer to as “eating a whole cow at once.” (For my vegan friends, substitute a bulk package of tofu for cow).

Use the 1 to 10 scale when attempting to evolve to another level. If you assess yourself at a 5 on a scale of 10, don’t make it your mission to “get to a 10 or bust.” Instead, noodle out a plan to get to a 6. That way, you’ll have a better chance of succeeding. Once you arrive at 6, put 7 in your sights and move up the ladder in increments. It’s a lot less stressful and you’ll be a lot more successful.

Final thought: When you have a personal dilemma to solve, don’t try and change everything, look for a way to evolve.

All the best,

John

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April 11, 2021

Staying In Touch – Recorded Version

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 6:19 am

Here is the recorded version of the Grasshopper Note for the week of 04-12-21.

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April 7, 2021

Making Sense Of The Senseless

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 2:50 am

Question mark 3255140 1920Sorry to report, there’s no making sense of the senseless. No matter how grandiose the excuse for senseless behavior, it’ll never be enough to curry favor with anyone with an ounce of sense.

Did you ever notice the news reports when a horrific crime’s been committed? After they give the victims’ names and the actions that caused their harm or death, you hear this line: “Police are looking for a motive.”

That means they’re looking for a reason and reasons are more plentiful than dandelions in spring, and just as useless. Let’s just call these reasons what they are: Senseless.

If police arrest a guy for robbing a liquor store, it’s usually not a senseless crime. He wanted money. That was his motive. But when we witness a crime whose impetus puts us in a quandary, we lose our mind searching for a motive. We just have to make sense of what happened. Even if we arrive at a reason most can agree on, what have we learned? A vague piece of information that doesn’t prevent senseless crimes from happening again.

Finding the motive doesn’t bring back the dead, it only gets us into the morass of a madman’s head.

I’m less interested in his motive and more interested in the means that can be dealt with. Did he use a gun, a knife, a baseball bat or a car to inflict harm? That gives us a piece of information we can work with, not endless pieces of an erratic mind.

Do you think it’s of any comfort to the victims families that the perpetrator was diagnosed as being fed from the wrong breast by his mother and that’s the “reason” he went off the rails? Does that motive help police or psychologists prevent similar, senseless crimes in the future? The answer is an emphatic “No!”

Spending so much time searching for why a senseless act was committed will take us to our wits end, but won’t prevent it from happening again.

I guess my real message here is not about crime, punishment or derangement. It’s more about focusing on how vs. why. One gives us factual data, the other is just pie in the sky.

Trying to make sense of the senseless will drive you crazy and the only motive you’ll come up with will be extremely hazy. “How” will move you forward, but not “why.” It’ll only take you backwards and give you endless reasons to cry.

All the best,

John

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April 4, 2021

Imagination Is 20-20 – Recorded Version

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 9:33 am

Here is the recorded version of the Grasshopper Note for the week of 04-05-21.

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March 28, 2021

What Makes You Smile? – Recorded Version

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 8:53 am

Here is the recorded version of the Grasshopper Note for the week of 03-29-21.

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March 22, 2021

Running Interference

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 2:42 am

Reality 1098745 1920I was watching a biopic of comedian Robin Williams and I heard him say, “If you don’t interfere with yourself, you’re quite interesting.”

He was referring to the acting profession and how valuable it is to be authentically you, rather than putting on airs and spitting out lines that you just chewed.

His quote speaks volumes about how we interfere with our innate greatness, no matter what our station in life. We run interference for and justify our false self – the part of us that we made up and got comfortable with. That’s the facade we want the whole world to see.

There’s who we are and who we think we are. Who we think we are is the made up version. This is the part of us that tells us we have to be a certain way in order to win the day. Sadly, that advice keeps us in our own way. It interferes with our creative self, blocking it from coming through.

How great can you be? Get out of your own way and let yourself and the whole world see just how interesting you can be.

All the best,

John

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March 21, 2021

Getting Played By The Game – Recorded Version

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 8:55 am

Here is the recorded version of the Grasshopper Note for the week of 03-22-21.

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March 19, 2021

What Do You Know?

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 6:52 am

Woman 41891 1280Oprah Winfrey is famous for asking people, “What do you know for sure?” I suspect that a lot of us claim to know something for sure, but we really don’t. That’s because we fail to own it.

Too often, we rent what we attest to know for sure. I don’t believe you can truly know something until you take ownership of it. That means acting on what you know, not just spouting out personally unverified advice.

Here’s a question worth asking yourself: “What do I know that I don’t own?”

The answers you get will lead you to the area of you life that needs less description and more conviction, namely action.

What pearls of wisdom are you famous for parcelling out to others but they keep you sitting on your butt when it comes to you? That’s renting, not owning what you know.

If you really want to know for sure, take the necessary action and go get the deed. Then you you can tell Oprah, with confidence, that you’re sure of what you know.

All the best,

John

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March 15, 2021

Grudge Match Revisited

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 11:41 am

Grudge1Got a grudge that won’t budge? Give this technique a go. It’s one I wrote about a few years ago and it felt like it needed a revisit.

The Grasshopper woke me up with this: “All your grudges die when you do.”

Wow! No more grudges! “But do I have to die for them to die?” was my question.

The answer is “yes” and “no.”

Yes, the energy has to leave our body to die but, no, we don’t have to physically die for the energy to leave a grudge.

Letting a grudge lose its energy will take more than a declaration on your part, but it’s a start. Recognizing that a grudge zaps more energy from you than does digesting Thanksgiving dinner is reason enough to craft a plan for its demise.

Recognizing that your grudge is hurting you more than whomever you’re holding it against is helpful in getting you started on the process. You gain extra credit if you notice that the grudge you’re holding is against someone who’s already dead. When that becomes “laugh out loud funny” to you, you know your grudge is at death’s door.

I don’t have a step-by-step method to offer but I do have one exercise that’s worth practicing. I call it a “Grudge Match.”

You can physically do this exercise or just do it in your imagination. It will have an effect either way.

Write down your grudge on a small piece of paper or draw a picture or symbol that represents your grudge. Next, go to a nearby sink and set fire to the paper and watch what was burning you up, burn up. If you’re afraid of setting the house on fire, do it in your imagination. Again, either way has an effect.

The flames represent the energy necessary to keep the grudge alive. As you watch them die out, your grudge begins to move to the great beyond.

You can be lectured from here to eternity about the sinfulness and ill effects of grudges but that hasn’t worked on you so far, so I offer one little match that has more burning power than Mrs. O’Leary’s Cow.

You’ll probably have to do this exercise more than once to get a lasting effect but the results are to die for.

All the best,

John

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March 14, 2021

“Why” Conceals; “How” Reveals – Recorded Version

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 8:40 am

Here is the recorded version of the Grasshopper Note for the week of 03-15-21.

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