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December 29, 2020

Raw Deal

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 9:17 am

Unlucky 4012723 1280How many times in your life have you heard or used the expression “raw deal”? “I got a raw deal.” “She got a raw deal.” You’ll run out of fingers and toes counting them up.

Truth be told, you were dealt a hand. The description of the hand came after the fact, attempting to categorize it as “undeserved” or “unwelcome.”

The pure reality is that you were dealt a hand. The key now is how to play it out. In other words, how to respond to the situation vs. react to it.

“Raw deal” is a reaction that gets lots of traction, especially with others who can also recount all the times they were treated poorly by the “dealer.” This conversation can go on for decades without seeking a solution, spending time, instead, reacting to the events and expecting a resolution.

Once the shock of the deal has worn off, it’s time to find a way to respond so that you can live and fight another day. I’ve always had a poor opinion of the New Hampshire motto: “Live Free or Die.” I’m all for living free, but if my only other option is for me to die, I’m out. I’d rather live under the blanket of oppression until I could figure out a way of responding that would get me to live free at a later date.

“Live Free or Die,” like a lot of reactions, doesn’t present a lot of options. Responding does. Responding presents us with more choices – ones that reactions never look for.

If life is a card game, the trick to keep on playing is learning how to play out a bad hand. You’l have plenty of opportunities to practice because not every hand is a winner, and you’ll gamble away your options if “raw deal” is the only thing on the menu for dinner.

All the best,

John

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December 27, 2020

50-50 Recorded Version

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 8:55 am

Here is the recorded version of the Grasshopper Note for the week of 12-28-20.

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December 23, 2020

Me First

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 6:08 am

Man 432709 1920The Grasshopper had me groping for a pen when he woke me up with this: “You sow the seeds of tomorrow’s defeat when you act with yesterday’s conceit.”

It sounds a bit like “pride comes before a fall,” but I think his message is broader. So let me explore.

The terms “narcissism” and “smugness” come to mind. I’ll rely on you as to what those words mean to you, but to me they connote, “no one else but me exists and the sooner you realize that, the sooner you’ll have the privilege of living in my world.”

When one’s egomaniacal dictates supersede what others need, it won’t be long before they’ll be choked out by the weeds contained in their fruitless seeds.

By the way, you’ll never change this type of person. Their only hope for salvation is self revelation, and the odds of that happening are like the old expression, “Slim and none, and slim has just left town.”

You can hope and pray that there’ll come a day when they won’t act this way. That will never happen, sorry to say.

The message here is crystal clear: Make your escape from them now or forever plan to scrape and bow.

All the best,

John

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December 20, 2020

All Or Nothing – Recorded Version

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 7:12 am

Here is the recorded version of the Grasshopper Note for the week of 12-21-20.

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December 17, 2020

Surrender Your Sword

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 8:34 am

Surrender Your SwordThe following is from a Grasshopper Note I wrote years ago that I called, “Fighting Arguments That You’ve Already Won.”

One of my biggest shortcomings is going over the same trail I’ve blazed before. I find it exasperating.

How many times can you offer the same piece of solid, time-tested advice and have it ignored? It’s not like you don’t have a track record of successes with that same piece of advice; it’s just that others aren’t willing to take you seriously. In short, they don’t believe what you’re offering applies to them.

Breaking through that wall of denial is just too much work for me. I have arrived at the “Que Sera Sera” stage of my life. It’s been a difficult transition.

Letting go of what you know is a tall order. Letting “whatever will be will be” take its place takes practice.

One of the blessings/curses I have in life is sensing what peoples’ problems are almost instantly after meeting them. It’s nothing I studied; it just comes to me naturally. The transition has been to finally realize I don’t have to point out what I recognize.

In the past, I often thought I was doing the person a service. In reality, I was offering an unsolicited opinion. That rarely worked and was received as a personal affront. The words of my hypnosis teacher Dr. Dave Dobson now come to mind: “Are they paying you?”

He didn’t add the rest of the implied phrase: “If not, then shut up.”

The good news is: I don’t have to abandon the skill, just only use it when it’s requested.

People can still ignore my “sage advice” but it won’t be for free. And I can enjoy my new mantra: “Whatever will be will be.”

All the best,

John

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December 14, 2020

What Do I Want? – Recorded Version

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 3:43 pm

Here is the recorded version of the Grasshopper Note for the week of 12-14-20.

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December 8, 2020

Bottoms Up

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 7:56 am

Couch potatoes 3116580 1920The Grasshopper offered up this piece of wisdom this morning: “Directives may come from the top down but solutions come from the bottom up.”

In management, I often heard the phrase “Shit floats downhill.” That meant the big boss had spoken and we were to execute, no questions asked. It also meant that if you wanted to get a coworker’s participation on your idea, you often had to get the boss’s ear first. That’s because some would not pitch in unless the order came from on high.

Taking each of those scenarios into account, we are still left with the reality of how the work gets done – from the bottom up.

That’s how change happens – from the bottom up, or as I like to say, “from the inside out.”

When we get the spark of a great idea or the urge to make changes, that prompt is coming from inside. Our creative self is knocking on our door with news of a treasure trove. It’s as though it’s saying, “There’s gold in them thar hills.” It then becomes our job to map out an action strategy and follow it to fruition.

Make no mistake, the worker bee does the outside work. You can’t wish your way to a conclusion or wait for someone else to do it. Taking action is your only route. It’s like one of my teachers said, “no one can go to the bathroom for you.”

Going inside (quieting your mind) is a proven way to generate creativity. You’ll be flooded with new ideas when you empty your mind. When we come back outside, action is our ally.

Long ago, I heard something like this: “You wouldn’t have been given the seed of a good idea unless the plan of action was contained in it.”

So the recommendation is this: Go inside for guidance and then plan an outside course of action. The course may contain obstacles, most of them do, but it’s applied action that will overcome them and see you through.

I guess the “bottom line” is this: Get off your ass to get what your want, or more politely stated, “Bottoms up.”

All the best,

John

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December 6, 2020

Passing On Learning – The Recorded Version

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 9:25 am

Here is the recorded version of the Grasshopper Note for the week of 12-7-20.

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December 2, 2020

Wait For It

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 11:14 pm

Time 92897 1920I don’t know if anyone else does this, but almost every Christmas I buy myself a gift. It’s usually something I wouldn’t want others to go out of their way or price range to buy for me. It’s a holiday treat I treat myself to.

There is another gift I’ve come by in recent years and as the saying goes, “if I had known about this years ago, I would have made much more progress than I have.”

This gift is one you also give to yourself. It pays dividends right away, and it’s only a few thoughts away.

The gift is “waiting.”

I learned to wait late in life and it pays off every time.

Sidebar: Men have been conditioned to have an answer at the ready immediately when asked a question. Culturally, men are expected to know and know now! Most often we don’t know, but we answer anyway because to do otherwise makes us look unknowing in the asker’s eyes. It’s also why most stutterers are men. They often had an impatient parent who demanded an answer well before they were ready to give it. “Out with it, out with it” may have been the mantra shouted at them while they were hesitating. They started to haltingly speak even though they didn’t know and the cat nibbled on their stuttering tongue.

I was talking to my friend Hali the other day and she was referring to someone who claimed to have “writer’s block.” I said, “writer’s block” is nothing more than a conversation in your head. It’s talking to yourself about not having an idea of what to write. That internal chat often turns into paralyzing fear. The comedian Sarah Cooper recently tweeted this: “Today I’m doing what I like to call “circulatory writing” which is where you don’t write at all but you think about writing and then you beat yourself up for not writing and then you start to write but you can’t write and it’s torture.”

Waiting is the remedy for writer’s block or any other answer you’re looking for. When you get to a sticking point, just put on the brakes and wait for traffic to start moving again. They key is to not rant internally or exrternally while you’re waiting. The answer is there, it just needs a moment of silence or two to come through.

Train yourself to wait. Some might say, “Have patience,” but that phrase has a ton of parental baggage attached to it and your mind doesn’t respond well to that directive. Waiting is an actual action you take, while patience is a mental construct that doesn’t bring you a lot of luck.

Start waiting with little things at first. For example, if you’re doing a crossword puzzle or Sudoku and you run up against a wall, resist the temptation to bang your head against it and give your mind a breather instead. It’s interesting how that quiet space you create fills up with the answers when you just wait.

It’s a one-size-fits-all present and it’s free. Take the time to practice waiting and you’ll have the perfect gift under your tree.

All the best,

John

 

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Dear Santa

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 10:44 am

Christmas card 2945633 1920Dear Santa,

My list is posted early this year in case you need extra delivery time because of the elves having to social distance.

As always, I’ll keep my list short and realize you may not be able to fulfill all my requests.

I don’t think my perennial request will ever come true: to have all broadcasters pronounce the word “forward” correctly. I’ve tried to alert some of them by text, and illustrated my request in a story. I suggested that if they were going to vote for Beaver Cleaver’s father in an election, they would be “FOR WARD.” If they were against him, he would be known as “FOE WARD.” I would consider this a Christmas Miracle if it ever happens, but quoting my sainted mother, “Don’t hold your hand on your ass waiting.”

Here’s something I really don’t want: to ever meet anyone who describes themselves on their dating profile as “Angel Eyes.”

Now for my requests:

* Less political posts on Facebook.

* More dog videos on YouTube.

* Less plastic gloves thrown on the ground in supermarket parking lots.

* Gift certificates for Sweetwater or Amazon

And finally, another broadcast request: Can you have TV interviewers stop saying “we’ll have to leave it there” when wrapping up an interview? They could just as easily say, “I want to thank our guest(s) for coming on today, and coming up next, a gerbil salesman tells us why he wants them stopped being called ‘desert rats’.”

I hope you and Mrs. Claus have a healthy and stress-free holiday and that Rudolph’s nose doesn’t turn blue.

Love,

LJ (Little Johnnie)

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