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February 11, 2013

What You Don’t Know

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 8:23 am

C167203 m“What you know that you don’t know cuts off your flow.” So said The Grasshopper yesterday afternoon.

It’s what we don’t know that runs the show that we call, “My life.”

Let’s look at some well known “don’t know” examples. We’ve all read stories about the poor athlete who made it big, or the pop singer who came from meager means, or the lottery winner who had nothing then “had it all.” There is a certain percentage of people who come into money and know nothing about money management. And, sadly, it’s not too long before a number of them are separated from all their money.

That’s an easy example to understand. What they didn’t know was their nemesis.

We all claim to know something. Oftentimes, we can’t prove it, but we “know” it. That’s a danger zone. This flow stopping knowing I’m speaking of is not the kind you feel in your bones, but the knowing you conjure up in your head. It’s the knowing you’ll argue about with no real wisdom coming out of your spout.

This type of knowing runs in the background. It’s conditioning long since forgotten that hasn’t forgotten about you.

Start noticing what you claim to know and here’s what you’ll notice: That you really don’t know much.

What you know puts you in hard cement which is hard to get out of, mainly because we don’t know we’re in it. We think we’re putting out hard and fast rules but rarely notice that they don’t apply to the game of life.

What do you know that you really don’t know? It takes noticing and bravery to answer that question. You’ll have to muster the courage to give up many of your arguments that you’ve defined as you. When you notice them, you’ll discover that all they have done is stick you in place. You’ll also notice that what you know stops you from learning something new. The flow of new ideas won’t come when the pipeline is jammed with knowing.

Famed psychiatrist, Carl Jung said it best many moons ago: “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

What you know cuts you off from what you don’t know, and what you don’t know is running your life. Wouldn’t you like to know what makes you tick? A little noticing will do the trick.

All the best,

John

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February 8, 2013

I Shouldn’t Have To

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 8:49 am

C269641 mI have discovered recently that one of my oft used phrases is, “I shouldn’t have to.”

What a paralyzing utterance that is.

What I’m saying is that I have to, but shouldn’t have to. That’s a dichotomy that will keep me dithering.

In reality, we don’t “have” to do anything. It may be our best interest to do something, but we don’t have to. Perhaps a story I’ve told before would be helpful.

Many years ago I was leading a communications workshop and asked a participant, “If I hold a gun on you and threaten to shoot you if you don’t move, do you ‘have’ to move?” Her answer was, “Yes!”

The correct answer was “No.” She didn’t “have to” but it was in her best interest to do so.

“I shouldn’t have to” just gums up the process of doing what’s in your best interest.

If you notice yourself using the phrase, “I should have to” with yourself or others, it’s time for a substitution phrase to get you back in the flow.

“This isn’t my job and I shouldn’t have to do this” may be a natural expression of frustration at a situation, but if you stick with it, it will stick it to you.

Side note: I hate playing golf with people who are easily frustrated. Here’s my experience: They hit a bad shot, have their favorite curse words leave their lips and then continue on a downward spiral with a litany of follow-up, frustrated phrases. “I suck.” “With all I’m paying for lessons, I shouldn’t be hitting the ball in the woods.” “I’ll never play this course again; it’s too difficult for amateurs.” Blah, Blah, Blah. They pollute the atmosphere for everyone around them and their game suffers for the rest of the round. What would happen if they had their favorite phrase leave their lips (#@!*##) to relieve the frustration and then went on to their next shot without further diatribe? Answer: A much more pleasant round.

Substitution is one solution for “I shouldn’t have to.” When you find yourself using some form of the phrase, you can insert something like “It’s in my best interest to do this” OR “I choose to do this because it’s the best, currently available option.” Create your own substitutions that keep the accent on moving forward rather than stopping yourself dead in your tracks with “I shouldn’t have to.”

“I shouldn’t have to explain myself to this person” becomes “It’s my best interest to give them an explanation.” “I shouldn’t have to do their job” becomes “I choose to do this because it’s the only current way to get the job done.”

There’ll be plenty of time to address the things you shouldn’t have to do at a later date when the pressure is off, but when it’s on, the way to keep moving forward is leaving “I shouldn’t have to” in your rear view mirror.

All the best,

John

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February 7, 2013

The Porosity of Thought

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 7:13 am

C107053 mI have come to the idea that most thoughts are like brittle bones – they don’t support me that well.

They aren’t as foundational as I once “thought.”

I wanted to be an attorney when I was a kid and had I followed through on that idea, I have no doubt I would have been a good one. I could make a good argument, support it with the facts, and find the weakness in another’s argument and expose and exploit it. That skill set works wonders in a court room, not so well in life.

When you continually make strong arguments, you weaken your ability to communicate because your focus is on winning rather than connecting. You believe your words are strong but their acidic nature are insidiously making you brittle.

Nowhere is this more evident than with the unspoken arguments that play out in our head. This constant back and forth that we have going on fractures our ability to stand up and just be. We are too busy arguing to be somebody and that just won’t support us anymore.

When that internal brawl spills out onto the street and can be heard by anyone within earshot, we are now fighting with others. The more fights you make, the more bones you break.

The thoughts that are the most toxic are the ones that make you right; They can make you brittle overnight. The argument to be right is a battle you may occasionally win, but you’ll soon be a casualty of war because you’ll fall down from your own righteous weight.

Thoughts weigh you down and, over time, become porous and break, making it more difficult for you to stand up.

Lightening your load takes the pressure off. We think as though we’re getting paid by the thought. We rarely look at the paltry payday that thoughts deliver. When you unburden your mind, even for a time, you strengthen your ability to stand tall without all that yammer and bawl.

Noticing that you’re thinking too much is the first step to a quieter mind. In that instant of observation, you have broken the train of thought getting you off the track of broken bones.

There are many ways to quiet your mind and I invite you to explore them and find the way that works best for you. That way it’s not your bones cooking in that internal stew.

All the best,

John

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February 5, 2013

Whole

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 7:23 am

C167677 mThere is one notion that holds all human beings back. It involves a simple truth that we lie to ourselves about. It took some salty advice from The Grasshopper to make me see what’s holding back you and me.

“Let go of the half-assed idea that you’re not whole.”

Whole is a universal goal which has us go on a quest with all the rest to a place where it can’t be found – outside ourselves.

We go out there to find the plug for the hole in our soul, when there isn’t one. The hole is in our head. The fix for that wound is to let it heal by learning to feel our wholeness which is ever present and real.

Getting out of your head will get you out of limited territory and into the limitless expanse of wholeness.

Wholeness is always there but we’re barred access by the excess baggage we carry around in our mind. Let’s begin to unburden ourselves by taking The Grasshopper’s counsel and begin to let go of the one idea that we’re not whole.

That extrication starts a domino effect that leads us home to wholeness.

Letting go of that one notion shows us that our outer vision quest is like mistaking the whole wave as only its crest.

Letting go of this one idea opens the inner passageway to wholeness.

Wholeness is the sense that everything is taken care of. The main thing standing in the way of us feeling that, is thinking we are the collection of misperceptions that sits under our hat.

All the best,

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February 4, 2013

Wise

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 12:05 pm

C166669 mThe Grasshopper paid a weekend visit and had this to say: “Amassing knowledge doesn’t make you wise.”

I love learning new things, especially in areas I’m passionate about. I love learning a new photography tip or getting a heretofore unknown golf tip, both of which may help me improve my performance.

But all the tips in the world, whether catalogued in countless notebooks or on my Pinterest page, don’t make me wise, just informed.

I have met many people who are highly educated, some with multiple degrees, who are smart as a whip but have the wisdom of wallpaper.

There is a difference between possessing knowledge and using knowledge. The former lets you talk about things; the latter lets you do things.

Knowledge is often limited to the area it’s amassed in; wisdom knows no boundaries.

Wisdom shows up more often when knowledge is owned rather than just gathered and stored. That means that you take your new knowledge and use it until it becomes second nature, not just a tidbit in your caboodle.

When you own the knowledge, it seems to seep out at the appropriate times making it wisdom.

Wisdom is also knowing when not to offer your knowledge. You may own a similar experience to what someone else is going through, but they may not benefit hearing it from you. You are wise if you know when not to be the smartest person in the room, even if you are.

This following could almost be a quote from Shakespeare: “How quick I can sometimes be, offering wise counsel to someone who doesn’t need to hear it from me.”

Wisdom is often the residue of consistently applied knowledge. It can also show up out of the blue with nothing to reference it to, kinda’ like a blind squirrel finding an acorn.

Wisdom shows up more often when you let go of what you know and just let it come to you naturally. Wisdom is a result of mental flow, not holding in place what you know.

Final thought from personal experience: Being a know-it-all isn’t a wise move.

All the best,

John

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