One of the biggest complaints we make is that of being stuck. We treat it as though it’s a physical condition, which is rarely the case, unless you’re stuck in snow.

Stuck is having our thoughts stuck in place. It’s the second cousin to being bored. Reminds me of a story . . .

It comes from my old radio days when we actually played records. Every now and then, at the most inopportune time, the record you were playing would get stuck in a groove. It would play the same phrase over and over again. Whenever I hear “Philadelphia Freedom” by Elton John, I think back to when I was in Syracuse, New York in the world’s dirtiest, radio bathroom. I was playing that song on the air and it got stuck. I’m sure it was comical to others seeing me running down the hall adjusting myself to get back into the studio to remedy the situation, but it wasn’t fun at the time.

Being stuck is never fun. It’s being possessed by a repeating thought.

The reason it’s paralyzing is because there is no room in your mind for a remedy. Your mind is fond of playing broken records.

You can’t do anything about it unless you become observant of your thoughts.

If you are stuck in life, you are stuck with the same thoughts. It’s really that simple. I know there’s a mantra that says, “Change your thoughts; change your life,” but that always suggests to me that we have some control over the thoughts to put in our mind. We don’t. Think of the last time you “thought positive” and failed.

Rather than select the thoughts you want to think, which only lasts as long as the life of a fruit fly, become like a cop on a stakeout listening to a wire tap. If you’re in that situation, you can’t participate in the conversation, you can only listen. When you passively listen to your thoughts, without engagement, your thoughts begin to flow because they are not meeting any opposition.

When you attempt to cut off your thoughts, it has the same success rate as attempting to stop a thunderstorm – none. Just observe them as they pass by and you keep movement in the equation.

Becoming aware of your thoughts doesn’t change the situation you are in but it keeps your thoughts flowing. Do the arithmetic. What’s most likely to get you to a solution – stuck thoughts or ones that are flowing?

The law of averages suggests that a flow of thoughts is more likely to produce a solution than one that’s stuck.

Train yourself to observe your mind. It’s always looking for an argument. If you engage in the debate, your new thoughts will have to wait as you busy yourself staying stuck on point.

The quickest way to get unstuck is stop arguing with your thoughts. It’s always a stalemate. Let them flow and you have a better chance of finding a solution downstream.

All the best,

John

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