The Grasshopper had a bon mot today. He said, “Reality doesn’t have any wiggle room.”

Have you ever noticed how much equivocation is in an answer that requires only a “Yes” or “No”?

We have all experienced a “To the best of my recollection” response and intuitively know it’s a “Cover your donkey” answer.

We look for wiggle room where none exists. We attempt to manufacture wiggle room every day on questions that only require a Yea” or “Nay.”

How refreshing would it be to get an unwiggled answer?

Straight answers may not give you the response you were looking for but they are filled with actionable data – information you can trust that doesn’t keep you wandering around in the dark.

“Maybe” is a wiggle room answer and creates false hope.

“Yes,” “No” or “I don’t know” will save everyone lots of time and aggravation.

“Yes” and “No” are self-explanatory. “I don’t know,” if it’s a statement of fact, lets you and others know you haven’t arrived at “Yes’ or “No” yet.

“Wiggle Room” may be a great name for an establishment that employs pole dancers, but used as a strategy in life, it will keep you dancing around the facts and avoiding reality.

The name itself, “Wiggle Room,” suggests you are not on firm footing and it’s not a great way to firm up an answer.

Wiggling isn’t going to go away, but each time you wiggle, know this: You are looking to delay that which you will eventually answer with a “Yea” or “Nay.”

Shorten the storm by training yourself to say “Yes” or “No” and lighten the load of carrying something forward that can be dealt with now.

“Yes” and “No” are some of the first words we ever learned. What we have forgotten, over time, is how effective they can be, because if we lead others to assume, it makes a donkey out of you and me.

All the best,

John

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If we believe our cultural conditioning – and we do – we are led to believe that life is out there somewhere.

The Grasshopper paid a weekend visit and left me with this: “Out there can’t compare.”

If you catalog your most life-filled moments, they weren’t out there.

It wasn’t the cultural promise that brought that burst of life through you; it was something closer to home.

“Out there” can provide a collection of “Nice times” and fun filled moments, but they lack the fullness of “In here.”

We seem to be on a lifelong quest for the Holy Grail and we think we’re going to find it in a Monty Python movie.

“In here” isn’t a cultural event; it’s a sense of peace that can’t be found in the hubbub of “Out there.”

We keep looking out there in hopes that our conditioning was correct. That has the same odds of finding a plot in a direct-to-video Steven Seagal movie.

We keep piecing “Out there” moments together hoping they will fill in the missing puzzle pieces in our life, until we come to the realization that “Out there can’t compare.”

If you are left feeling anti-climatic in your hunt for life, chances are you are looking “Out there.”

“Out there” will have you pursue the rainbow filled horizon, just as a dog will chase its tail. The only difference is the dog has sense enough to stop.

Take time to review your “real moments” in life and find out they weren’t about any glitz or the false promise of tomorrow. There was a sense of “In here” about them.

I wish you Godspeed on your journey and hope you find your share of good times and good fortune. What I pray for is that you discover “In Here” and find out for yourself that “Out there can’t compare.”

All the best,

John

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The Grasshopper reminded me this morning to have an “In between” day.

I had to wonder about that for a bit and here’s what I came up with:

Today is in between where you came from and where you are going. It’s the only place where any activity can take place because, today, you can’t act in the past or future. You can only act now.

So have an “In between day” today and every day!

All the best,

John

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