Unwilling
Here is a title of a book I will write – “Willingness.”
I am convinced that it is the missing ingredient in most of our endeavors or dreams.
Willingness is a mindset, nothing more. Like most mindsets, it takes cultivation.
Here’s the formula that never works – Crafting your goal and having the anchor of unwillngness digging you deeper into immobility.
Defining “unwillingness” helps make us cognizant of what’s keeping us in place. Unwillingness is a subconscious pattern, outside of our awareness, that determines what we can or cannot accomplish. Once you recognize the pattern, you are on your way to being willing.
Unwilling is filled with conditions; willing is singularly focused.
Here’s an example of an unworkable solution: I want to (fill in the blank) but these conditions have to be in place. Reminds me of a story I’ve told before . . .
I had two female co-workers as passengers in my car years ago and they were discussing their “list.” That would be the must attributes of their ideal mate. After listening to them exchange conditions for awhile, I interjected with this: “When you meet the guy of your dreams, he’ll be missing most things on your list.” They scoffed.
They both met their ideal guy, and guess what; each man had many of the unwanted conditions on their lists.
Over the years, their unwillingness softened and got out of the way of them getting what they wanted. It takes recognition for unwillingness to fade.
Here’s a phrase you can interrupt your conditioned list with: “I’m willing to (fill in the blank). The blank would be your goal minus any conditions.
Here are a few examples:
“I’m willing to be more open to abundance in my life.”
“I’m willing to attract the person of my dreams.”
“I’m willing to be well.”
Please notice the period at the end of each of those sentences. We usually add conditions after the period. Resist the temptation to do so and watch the weight of unwillingness melt and fade away.
When I write the book I’ll let you know more, but in the meantime start focusing on what you are willing to let happen without conditions.
Don’t be too surprised how one little mindset shift can trigger a world of unconditioned possibilities.
All the best,
John
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