Struggles
Everyone struggles with something. It doesn’t matter who you are or what your station is in life. If you’re human, you struggle.
The question is: What are most of us struggling with? It seems we have one struggle that we all have in common – The struggle with our self worth.
We question our worth. We then measure it up against others’ perceived self worth in an attempt to get a handle on our own. What we rarely discover is that our self worth is independent of anyone else’s and independent of any thought we may have about it.
How often have you had the “I don’t measure up” conversation in your head? Notice you are measuring your worth against another’s. What is sibling rivalry other than a comparison of your self worth with another’s competing for a parent’s attention?
When we attempt to measure up to someone else’s standards, we will have struggles with self worth.
There are no standards. That’s a head trip. Attempting to apply those standards will keep you unworthy for a lifetime.
When we attempt to measure our self worth, we are using a standard that can never be reached, so the struggle is ongoing. The standard seems to be perfection.
Perfection is consciously unattainable. There will always be someone more perfect than us and they are struggling as well.
So the struggle stays in place for everyone because the goal is unattainable for all. Sounds like the house odds in Vegas.
How do we end the struggle with self worth? Begin by noticing that perfection is an illusion – a mind made concept that’s more addictive than heroin. Once you notice that perfection is a false god, you begin to get in touch with your worth.
Everyone has it in equal measure; it’s just a matter of finding it. Here’s a hint: it’s not between your ears. Anytime you are having a conversation with yourself about worthiness, you distance yourself from your worth.
True perfection is finding the place in you that negates the conversation in your head about who you are or aren’t.
Each time you visit this quiet place of perfection, you bring back more of your worth and you find your struggles to be fewer.
You can spend the rest of your life struggling with how worthy you are by keeping someone else’s idea of perfect as your standard. Or you can find out that you’re already perfect when you get outside of your head.
All the best,
John
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