What we want is often counterbalanced by what we don’t want. As long as the dichotomy exists, we are at the mercy of the middle.

You can mix oil and water together for a time but, given time, they go back to their respective corners.

Anytime there is an elongated debate between “want” and “don’t want,” you are in for a protracted stall.

One of them has to win in order for you to move forward.

Listing the pros and cons of something may help clarify your thinking, but when that practice becomes an everyday event, you are practicing staying stuck.

It’s a crude, old expression but its wisdom is timeless: “Shit or get off the pot.” (For our younger readers, it has nothing to do with marijuana).

“I would take my husband back if I knew he would remain faithful” is a want/don’t want statement. It’s a conditional desire.

The conditions have to be removed to remove the inertia from “want” and “don’t want.”

Until you are ready to go for what you want without conditions, you will remain a member of the world’s most popular dance club – Two steps forward, one step back.

There will be consequences in going for what you want; there always are, but if they are everlastingly considered, you will never get what you want.

The ancient Persian Poet, Rumi gives some perspective on wanting.

Don’t grieve for what doesn’t come.
Some things that don’t happen
keep disasters from happening.

There comes a time to choose between “want’ and “don’t want.”

You have to want one more than the other, otherwise your peace will be subjected to a lifetime of tug of war.

I wish I could tell you that one is better than the other, but only you can decide.

Decide means taking sides. It’s the action that removes the shadow from doubt.

There’s a reason “Just Contemplate It” never caught on.

All the best,

John

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