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April 21, 2010

Friend or Foe?

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 7:09 am

I, like most people, would rather have friends than foes.

It’s easy enough to tell the difference between the two, in most cases.

You probably spend more time with friends than you do foes, but how well does that serve you?

The Grasshopper was up at the crack of dawn this morning and said this: “A foe will help you grow.”

We can easily see in a competitive sports environment, that an opponent will test your skills. A friend may not.

For example, hearing them reminisce about their storied, basketball careers, arch rivals, Magic Johnson and Larry Bird both underscored the fact that each brought out the best in each other.

It may not be immediately apparent, but habit patterns become our friends. Some of them are wonderful, but many of them keep us marching in place.

I’ve had close to a half million people come to my smoking cessation seminar and the number of smokers who consider cigarettes as their friend would make you gasp. Male smokers keep their cigarettes in their top shirt pocket, next to their heart – a friend, a buddy, a pal.

Women smokers are no different. Regarding cigarettes, many women have actually told me, “They were there for me when he wasn’t.”

With friends like these . . . (you know the rest).

An enemy may be the idea that keeps nagging at you, prodding you, challenging you to do something new.

Ancient Chinese General, Sun-tzu was on to something when he said, “Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer.”

It may be time to bring your foe in closer. It may be the only thing that’s going to test you. Your friends may accept you and enable you, but your foe has no such agenda. Your foe is like the sand in the oyster shell – annoying, yet gritty enough to make you shine.

The ancient proverb, “The enemy of my enemy is my friend” also encourages us take another look at our foes.

Is there a foe taunting you? Perhaps this time you will listen. You may not like what they have to say, but ignoring them again keeps growth at bay.

All the best,

John

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