I did a “values assessment” the other day and came up with my top three.

I looked at a long list of suggested values and was instructed to write down the 10 most important ones to me. From the list of 10, I was to prioritize them and find my top three.

Here are my top 3 Values:

FAMILY
DEPENDABILITY
HONESTY

Your list will look different than mine, but it is useful to find your top values.

It gives you a glimpse of the base you operate from and it also shows the areas where you come in conflict with others.

When people don’t have your values on the same rung of the ladder, there will be friction. That doesn’t mean that your values are right and theirs wrong; it just means that you don’t value them the same.

It’s helpful to notice when your values get ruffled. Your conditioned response is often to go into conflict mode. That may not be conducive to interacting with another person who has different values.

If you notice, you can throw in the clutch and take care of your interaction so that you get the best possible outcome. If you don’t notice, you’ll go on automatic pilot and an undercurrent will be present in your dealings with others with different values.

This much I know for sure. A person with different values will never be in long-term harmony with you and vice-versa.

Do you have a family member that you absolutely love but friction ensues on a regular basis with them? Different values.

The tack we normally take is to make them wrong. They’re not wrong, just wrong for us. It’s the same with a spouse, a lover or a friend.

You can find common ground with just about anyone but finding common values is a rarer find.

Take the time to find your most important values and begin to notice what others value.

It will smooth out what could be a much bumpier ride.

All the best,

John

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