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October 12, 2009

Save Me

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 8:56 am

It may not be overtly obvious but it seems that everyone, at some level, wants to be saved.

That’s one of the reasons people get married. They want to be saved. That’s why others change jobs, relationships, careers, states, countries, lifestyles, etc.

Anyone who wants to be saved feels helpless, no matter what false bravado is presented for the world to see.

Here’s the good and bad news rolled into one – no one can save you – not your spouse, your lover, your lifestyle, your career, your parents, your children or a giant lottery jackpot.

So what is it that we all want to be saved from? The common answer is circumstance. The deeper answer, when you take the time to explore it, is yourself.

We want to be saved from ourselves.

No matter how confident someone appears, if you dig a little bit, you will find someone who has self esteem issues. They think they should be better than they are and are afraid they can’t be. They look outside themselves for an answer.

There is good reason Renee Zellweger‘s line from the movie, Jerry Maguire movie is so popular. “You complete me” represents the part of us that wants to be saved. Most people are looking for a savior, not a partner.

What is so scary about ourselves that causes us to seek saving?

We seek to be saved from the part of us that’s impermanent. We don’t like that there is a temporary nature to this thing called our self. We are afraid of dying.

Death has many faces. There is the one that’s usually followed by burial. That’s not the one we fear most. We are most afraid of the death of the person we made up and got comfortable with – our self image. When our image becomes threatened, we look for someone or something to prop it up. We want to save our image. You’ve heard the phrase “A fate worse than death.” That’s the death of who we believe we are.

We go on a quest to find someone or something to fill in the gaping gaps of this dying image. They may temporarily save us from the raindrops that smear our exterior paint but they’ll never be able to hold off the flood that will knock down the walls.

You can’t save your self. It’s going to die; it’s just a matter of how long you want to prolong the pain of keeping it alive. Examine the problems in your life and notice how many of them are fed by this false sense of self. When it dies, so do the problems associated with it.

The thing we are looking to save is the cause of most of our difficulties.

There comes a time in life when this self image starts to come unglued. It’s at this point that we begin the senseless fight to hold it together. These are the most difficult times in our life. We expend so much energy on keeping alive that which is aching to die. This is when we seek saving the most.

Spiritual teacher, Eckhart Tolle offers a prescription for finding life past our self. He says, “Die before you die.”

Who we believe we are must die in order for us to live life to the fullest. This is the real crossroads in life – one trail keeps you looking for a savior; the other helps you find your true self.

This isn’t an easy process, but a necessary one.

One of life’s hardest lessons is to tell the truth up front. It saves so much agony on the back end and allows us to get on with our life much sooner.

The truth is no one can save you.

All the best,




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