Warming
I was treated to another unseasonably cool May day in New England when I awakened this morning. I’ve lived here for 29 years and I cannot remember a May that was as cool and wet as this one. It’s a rare occurance to turn on the heat in May but the house needed warming this morning.
It got me to wondering about another type of warming – personal warming.
Have you ever said, “I can’t warm up to that person”? What you are actually describing is restricted blood flow in your body. That person is a stimulus and coolness is the response.
Coolness doesn’t add to communication. It makes you shiver and shut down.
I now have “Global Warming” in a new frame. How can you warm up to the entire global populace if you can’t warm up to one?
Personal warmth is about being open with all you come in contact with. How often have we let our conditioning shut us down and turn off the heat?
The quickest way to numbing cool is judgement. The minute we let judgement go on for more than a few seconds, the quicker we encounter a snow squall. We have to de-ice our wings or this plane is going nowhere.
We begin to warm up when we allow our judgements to pass.
The benefit of this action is twofold:
- You warm up.
- You distribute your heat.
So this works for narcissists and altruists alike.
People can feel another’s warmth. When you are in that warm environment, it’s easier to interact.
Coolness is a tactic that has its place. When it becomes your life’s strategy, you will spend a lot of time in ice-o-lation.
Other people are our resources and we theirs. When we continue to affix labels and the attendant judgements that go with them to others, our chances of warming up just moved to Siberia and so did any chance for mutual benefit.
If you are having a hard time warming up to people, take a look at your judgements. They are conditioned patterns that could use some thawing out.
Here’s an experiment to validate this notion in your own world: Put your judgements away for a day and witness your warmth come out to play.
Now that’s cool!
All the best,
John
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