Here’s another view on the phrase “I hate you.”

You’re probably not human if you’ve never said or thought that phrase. I know I have and I meant it when I said or thought it.

But who actually said or thought that phrase? The conditioned you, that’s who.

The part of us that pretends to be us says some of the “darndest” things.

When something vile like that pops into our mind or out of our mouth, you can be sure it’s our conditioning talking, not us. That, however, does not absolve us from our vile utterances. There are consequences for actions, no matter what part of us produced them.

If you need proof that my hatred assertion is true, find a toddler that hates. They haven’t been conditioned yet.

Who do you hate? No one. Who does your conditioning hate? All the people on your hate list.

Quoting Buddha: “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned.”

Hatred is anger and it will burn you too. Hanging on to hatred is hanging on to your justifications, which is another way of saying hanging on to your conditioning.

The next time you are about to utter your next bit of hate speech, pause for a moment and notice where it’s coming from. It’s coming from the part of you that you made up and got comfortable with – your public persona. That’s not who you were born into; that’s how you were molded.

There are two ways to break the mold – noticing or dying. Dead people don’t have any more conditioning. Noticing is the method to do while living. Notice your conditioning about to speak and interrupt it. Each time you do, a little more love comes through and that feels good for me and you.

All the best,

John