It’s a Shame
Shame is something we bury in the dark corners of our mind with regularity. We don’t bring it out into the light of day where it can soak up the antiseptic rays.
We think our shame is secret because we keep it hidden, but it’s transparent to anyone who’s paying attention.
If someone else besides us dares to notice, our emotions become raw and we feel bare at the ball.
My apologies to Shakespeare but “Holding a candle to someone’s shame can make their temper flame.”
Shame is a delicate area to address as an outsider. Just put yourself in their shoes. Your secret turf has just been invaded and your private parts are now exposed. OMG!
Besides being a warning to those about to tread into a field filled with land mines, let this serve as an opportunity for us to make our shame less volatile by bringing it to the light.
This is a personal project where we view our shame in the light of day where it isn’t as scary as things that go bump in the night. It’s a process, not a one-time intervention. Exposing your shame to the light all at once can be blinding, and if someone else does it, it can send us into a blind rage.
Buried shame keeps us defensive and less open to letting people in. We don’t want them to see our deep dark secret so we deplete our energy by running two lives – the one for public consumption and the one we have to live with.
Getting acquainted with your own shame gives you the courage to move forward and live one life – where one’s candle will be enlightening rather than frightening.
All the best,
John
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