Denial is a planetary pariah. It eats away at the core of humanity. “My bad” has deserted our vocabulary. Admission has been equated with submission in the human psyche. When you admit, you do not surrender your power to another. By owning up, you are proving that you are a person plugged in to thee power source – the one that enables you to acknowledge and atone and move forward to make the slate as clean as possible. Denial will always keep you looking over your shoulder concocting stories to support your lies. In short, there is no peace.

Denial always stands in the way of a brighter day. With it, days are artificially lighted and nights are dark.

The natural athlete who refused to practice and can’t turn it on at will anymore feels like the focal point of a conspiracy. That’s when s/he concocts a story about their deficiencies and how it’s someone else’s fault. The story works with some for a while and then reality sets in. The spin doesn’t work anymore – even s/he recognizes that. Yet the denial continues. Everyone eventually catches on except them. They plow on and become a spectacle – a poor imitation of their former self.

If they admit that they can’t do what they used to, and add some walk to the talk about getting themselves in better shape, that’s when they’re able to be the best they can be. In order to make a successful comeback, they do have to mend fences and they do have to admit to the fabrications they tried propping themselves up with.

It’s really a shame there can’t always be a bad guy to blame it on. Yet, there’s always seems to be a bad guy paraded around. The saddest news is even if you position a bad guy as a scapegoat, you can’t chase away the dreadful thoughts you have when you’re alone. “The emperor has no clothes” is the freeing answer.

It doesn’t smooth out the road; it just lets you know there is a road to travel on. The destination is worth the effort. You can deny the road is there and say that everything is “fine.” Everyone knows that’s a lie. As the great attorney, Gerry Spence says, “everyone has their own BS detector.” Always remember this: when you deny, you lie.

Denial is the thread that ties your story together. It becomes dissolving sutures when it’s exposed to the light. Stay in the dark and continue to tell yourself that everything will be okay and tomorrow will be just like today.

To unglue yourself from denial, your story needs to fall apart. That also means your ego has to fall apart. Here’s a suggestion: Fall apart around people who will support you as you put your life back together, rather than being with those who continue to support your illusion. When the illusion falls apart, they will disappear.

Reality is always here.