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June 21, 2011

Closing the Wound

Filed under: John Morgan's Blog — John Morgan @ 7:41 am

Walking around with an open wound invites infection. Ask any physician.

Emotional wounds are the same. Close them or they will infect your life as long as you draw breath.

Some people walk around with open wounds for years, decades and even for a lifetime. They never consider stitches.

It got me to wondering.

What causes a person to keep that wound open?

I’m sure there are many answers but here is one that pops for me: They want their hurt acknowledged.

They don’t necessarily want you to fix it, but they want you to acknowledge the depth of their wound and how badly it hurts.

Until they get acknowledgement regarding their pain, their life is an open sore and it infects everything they do.

In the past, I would judge people harshly who constantly walked around with open wounds. It seemed like a lot of drama to me. I didn’t get the acknowledgement piece until I became wounded.

I couldn’t close the wound. Everyone was helpful with advice on how to close the wound, but none offered acknowledgement of how badly I was hurting.

Then I discovered the salve didn’t have to come from others to begin the healing process. Acknowledgement had to come from me.

It’s one thing to know you’re angry, frustrated, dissatisfied or unhappy; it’s an entirely different process to acknowledge hurt. You can be all of the aforementioned things in your head; you can only acknowledge hurt in your body.

Feeling your hurt, without discussing it in your head, is the overlooked way to suture an open wound.

You can talk about your hurt forever without ever addressing it.

If you’re wounded and want to heal, you have to be willing to feel.

That doesn’t mean to talk to yourself or others ad nauseam about your feelings; it means to engage your feelings silently. Feel them in your body.

I’ve written on this topic many times and each time I do, I’m reminded of the healing power of feel.

It’s not easy to do, but highly effective. It’s the storm before the calm.

Acknowledgement can begin at any time and now is always the best time to close the wound.

 

All the best,

John

ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING
LOSE WEIGHT & KEEP IT OFF
STOP SMOKING FOREVER
SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT EVERY NIGHT
IMPROVE YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE
I LOVE MY BODY
RELAX IN 2 MINUTES
FEEL FOREVER YOUNG
VIRTUAL MASSAGE



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