Should
Here is a reality based Mad Lib to play with and ponder over the weekend:
EVERYONE HAS THE (blank) THEY HAVE BECAUSE IT’S THE (blank) THEY HAVE.
Any person, place or thing can fill in the blank and you still have a working model of reality.
Let’s find some words to fill in the blanks.
Relationship, Job, Wealth, Health, Happiness, Satisfaction, Situation.
You can even personalize this reality Mad Lib for additional insight.
I HAVE THE (blank) I HAVE BECAUSE IT’S THE (blank) I HAVE.
The formula works every time.
This exercise gets you away from “Should” and immerses you in “Is.” “Should” can have many interpretations; “Is” is only one way.
As THE GRASSHOPPER said many moons ago, “Reality doesn’t have versions.”
“Should” keeps you scattered; “Is” keeps you focused.
Reality can only be the way it is right now. Reminds me of a story . . .
My business partner lives in a community where there are a lot of golf courses that are filled with people who have been playing golf for many years. He says you would be amazed at the number of people who write down the score they should have had instead of the one they got. This always causes problems when they enter a tournament when someone else is keeping score. That’s because when they are paired with people who have the same handicap (average score) as they do, they lose. This is due to the fact that they arrived at their handicap through the “Should Method.” It’s never a reflection of reality.
When you focus on what is, your choices are clear. Should occludes your vision with false choices that blindly take you down paths that lead to nowhere.
Noticing reality zeroes you in on what needs to be done in order to produce a new reality. Playing with should keeps you wandering in the woods and your new reality is a carbon copy of the old one. (Someone just asked, “What’s a carbon copy?”)
If you need help in finding reality, any mirror will do. Mirrors don’t lie and neither does reality.
You have the (blank) you have, PERIOD!
When you come to that realization, you have placed the first paving stone towards your new reality.
All the best,
John
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