If, When and Then
These are the three words that delay happiness – If, When and Then.
We all use them and stall happiness each time we do.
“If such and such would happen, then I’d be happy.”
“When I (fill in the blank), then I’ll be happy.”
Three little words – If, When and Then.
All these words are future based which is why you can’t be happy now.
Your language betrays you and you keep putting happiness off for another time.
If, When and Then are traps. They trap you into believing that action happens in the future, not now.
That’s because we have been conditioned to attach happiness to other people’s actions, circumstances and events. We always have to wait for those conditions to be in place before we can be happy. That can turn into a lifetime of waiting and lots of missed happy moments.
Happiness is ever present. It can show up whenever we notice that we can be happy independent of circumstances. We just have to get happiness back into the present by negating the talk of it in the future.
NOTE: No one is perpetually happy and thank God. They would never have a reference for what happiness is if they were always happy and would not enjoy how special it is.
“How can I be happy now?” is a question worth asking, especially in times of unhappiness.
“What can I be happy about this minute?” You may not get an answer each time, but it’s still worth asking the question for the times that you do get an answer.
What’s guaranteed is that no answer will come if you keep putting your happiness off to a time that doesn’t exist now – the future.
Those who keep gratitude journals seem to be a happier lot. They get themselves in the habit of noticing things to be grateful for now. This engenders more happy moments.
Happiness is a habit, one that’s worth developing.
The time to invite happiness in is right now.
If you wait for the future when things will be better, then you have insured that you can’t be happy now.
All the best,
John
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