Living in your mind is like living in a sand castle. When the wind blows or the ocean roars, you become homeless - Grasshopper
Talking to yourself inside your head is a major part of the human condition. Some call it thinking. We come out from this seemingly private fortress to interact with others or to give our attention to something like the material in a book, the music being played, or to the content of a movie or TV show. Then we go right back inside to this noisy nest.
Fair is a Fairy Tale - Grasshopper
Did you ever notice that Reality doesn’t ask your opinion before taking action?
Reality does what it does and we have a reaction. We may be elated if Reality has us win the Grasshopper High Jump Sweepstakes or deflated if we have the losing ticket.
A person filled with anger focuses on whose fault it is rather than seeking a solution - Grasshopper
Blame is a universal dysfunction of the human mind. The underlying notion of blame is that a set of circumstances has to be someone’s fault. The natural offshoot of that idea is that someone has to pay. And one of the built in protection mechanisms we have determines that the person paying the tab will not be me.
Revenge Is Always a Sugar High - Grasshopper
When can you ever remember the "sweetness" of revenge lasting for more than a moment? Just how quickly does satisfaction disappear after you tell your boss to stuff it where the sun doesn't shine? I can tell you from personal experience that it feels great to speak your mind that way. Then you are immediately faced with no job and no paycheck.
Some people would rather be right than happy. And preferring to be right, they are left out - Grasshopper
Many states in the USA have traffic circles. I've driven around most of them. By law, the driver whose car is in the circle has the right of way. If there is a huge truck approaching the circle on one of the feeder roads, the driver in the circle still has the right of way. The oncoming truck is required to yield to the car in the circle.
Unwinding is simply unbinding yourself from your thoughts - Grasshopper
How do you unwind? Is it with a glass of wine, a shower, a chat with a friend or spouse? Do you take a nap, read something, meditate, or do you take a walk or jog? These are some of the things people do to relax.
Reality is what happens. Perceived reality is what goes on between your ears - Grasshopper
We spend the majority of our lives steeped in illusion. Illusion is the offspring of an encounter between Reality and perceived reality.
Surrender takes you to a peaceful place of transformation - Grasshopper
Suppose you are afraid of needles and are compelled to get one because of necessary travel to a country that requires inoculation. Four Sumo Wrestlers appear out of nowhere and hold you down so you don't run away in fear. Do you struggle against these giants? Most people do. Does that make any sense?
Mistakes are for Math - Grasshopper
Who doesn't make mistakes? - dead people, rocks, and my father (to hear him tell it). Also, God doesn't make mistakes. And guess what, neither do you - except in Algebra.
If your only nourishment comes from the Caldron of Culture, you will always have a soup stain on your shirt - Grasshopper
It looks like a fancy restaurant, but it's only a soup kitchen. That's culture. Culture never invents anything; it reflects the mostly superficial wants and desires of its club members. We all have membership in culture – even hermits.
Your strongest asset is your Achilles Heel - Grasshopper
This seems like backwards logic. It is! Sometimes you have to look at something from a different vantage point to get a deeper meaning.
If you set mouse traps, you always get mice - Grasshopper
Have you ever caught sight of yourself in a mirror and said something like, "I look just like my father/mother"? Have you ever caught yourself in the middle of a mannerism and said the exact same thing? It happens all the time.
Know Less, Discover More - Grasshopper
Whatever you're holding on to for dear life is an impediment to learning something new. Something knew is better than something known. If you allow your knowing to become past tense and short-lived, then new discoveries will thrive.
When you say, "I'll never get over it" or "used to it," you're referring to the thought, not the event - Grasshopper
Those thoughts come from your ego, not you. Thoughts from the real you will never keep you stuck. Additionally, you will never fully appreciate life until you discover that it's not your life to begin with. Just this subtle shift of awareness will have you making less attempts at getting used to things, and open you to inspiration that gets you unstuck - moving you forward in life.
No Sin is Harder to Forgive than Another - Grasshopper
Is it possible that The Grasshopper has ruffled some feathers with this pronouncement? I immediately had objections to this gift from G-force, so I just sat with it for a moment. Then the truth behind the words became clear.
Stones weren't created; they became separated - Grasshopper
Everytime you see a rock or a stone, you are seeing a piece of the whole. It looks like it has always been a separate entity but that's never the case. We think of other people as separate from us, but that also is never the case.
If You Have No Thoughts in Your Head, You Have No Problems - Grasshopper
That may be a foreign thought to many, but the simplicity of The Grasshopper's message bears further investigation. Problems are interpretations of reality. Problems are mind made manifestations. And problems get in the way of solutions.
If You Can’t Love Everybody, You’ll Never Completely Love Yourself - Grasshopper
Everybody??? Yes, everybody. It's not as improbable as it appears, and it's easier than you think. The benefit is far greater than you may imagine.
Success is less dependent on your goal and more determined by what you believe you can have - Grasshopper
Goal setting is the global preoccupation. There was a cartoon that Eckhart Tolle referred to recently that read something like this:
"The reason you set goals is so you can keep track of all the things you have failed at."
A True Apology Comes Without Justification - Grasshopper
The closest life comes to having an undo button is an apology. It shows respect, mends wounds, and opens a door for forgiveness to walk through. We rarely apologize effectively, causing our offense to be even more offensive.
You'll Be Stuck With That Thought Until You Aren't - Grasshopper
There is no debate that thoughts are the glue that keep us stuck. The question is, "who has the glue remover?" The answer may surprise you.
After Knowing Me, You'll Never Be Able To Be You Again - Grasshopper
There are certain experiences in life that open you to new vistas, that once seen and experienced, will change how you think about yourself forever. One of those experiences is presence.
When You Get The Answer, You Stop Wrestling With The Question - Grasshopper
How much clock time do we spend in our lives looking for answers? If thinking is the number one preoccupation of humans, then looking for answers has to be next.
The Winding Path is the Closest Distance Between You and Revelation - Grasshopper
Did you ever wonder why the path of life is not a straight line? It's designed to wind so that you get to meet more of God's creations.
Sorry Only Works Once - Grasshopper
An apology contains power. The wind leaves its sail when it's repeatedly used for the same transgression.
The Surest Way to Miss Your Life is to Take the Detour to Illusion - Grasshopper
"The American Dream" is a marketing mantra that leads us to a detour where we chase the horizon and never arrive.
Patience is the Ability to Wait the Time it Takes - Grasshopper
Impatience is a conscious effort to speed up the timetable of the Universe. This activity is folly and extreme hubris wrapped together and brandished as a weapon – one that even windmills aren't afraid of.
The Thumb That’s Holding You Down Contains Your Fingerprint - Grasshopper
And speaking of digits, finger pointing is a global game whose sole aim is to assess blame.
“The Devil Made Me Do It” Is More Than A Comedian’s Legacy - Grasshopper
The late comedian, Flip Wilson popularized the above phrase during a recurring skit on his TV show. It comically connoted that something else was the cause for your shenanigans. This concept has more truth than meets the "take responsibility for your own actions" eye.
Sometimes it Has to Get Totally Dark for Someone to See the Light - Grasshopper
There is an upside to the dark side. It's a pathway to find out who you truly are.
Everything Is As It Should Be Because Everything Is As It Is - Grasshopper
The first part of the quote comes from The Buddha and the second part of the quote came to me via The Grasshopper. Who is The Grasshopper and what does this combination quote mean?
Between Marbles and Marble There’s Room to Find Life - Grasshopper
From the time we discover our humanness to the time when our name is inscribed on polished stone, there is an ever present opportunity to wipe the sleep out of our eyes and see what's always been there – life.
Thinking it Over has Less Odds than Wishing on a 4 Leaf Clover - Grasshopper
A conversation in your head is an impotent reaction to reality that cannot effectuate change, anymore than a gelding can be a proud papa.
Nothing Grows in a Field That Won’t Yield - Grasshopper
Resistance keeps you like hardened soil where nothing grows making your crops barren and your field overrun with tumbleweeds.
No One is Good or Evil – Just Patterned - Grasshopper
People who are judged Right or Wrong, Good or Bad, Sinner or Saint, all come from the same family tree. The behavioral differences they display are determined by the conditioning they collect.
Anger is a Bodyguard that Keeps You Isolated - Grasshopper
When you are aware enough to interrupt your anger, you find a connection that's always been there.
Here But For The Space Of God Am I - Grasshopper
Did you ever notice that everything occupies a space? A space has been made for everything. There is room at the Inn for you and me.
My Ego’s Bigger Than Your Ego - Grasshopper
Ever been in a conversation with someone where you wanted to one-up them, have the last word, appear smarter, win at all costs? Welcome to the world class game, Who's Got The Bigger Ego?
Nature Doesn’t Think; It Just Creates - Grasshopper
When nature flows into your thinking, you will create great things. Great things require less thinking.
If It Could Only Be Like It Never Was - Grasshopper
Memories are deceiving. They are colored by predispositions and faded by time and edited of their flaws before we watch the rerun in our mind's eye.
Then Isn’t Happening Now - Grasshopper
Did you ever notice that "then" can be past or future? Then can never be now but we live our whole life in then and wonder why it's not happening now.
The Largest Mistake You Can Make with Another is to Communicate Their Lack of Importance to You - Grasshopper
"I couldn't care less" is the message of relationship death and it is sent out more often than you can imagine.
Tomorrow’s Difference is Based on the Consciousness You Have Now - Grasshopper
My friend, Hali recently saw this saying on a church billboard: "Today is the tomorrow you were worried about yesterday." How much time can we afford to be absent absorbed in future worry or past woe?
The Vibration of Your Bell can be Heaven or Hell - Grasshopper
Did you ever notice how short the sound associated with the ringing of a bell actually is? The sound comes out of silence and returns to silence, and what is in between is our existence.
The Real “Catch 22” is Your Criticism of You - Grasshopper
Self criticism keeps alive any unwanted condition in you by giving it more energy with every blow you strike.
A Mistake is Renaming a Part of Reality We Don’t Like - Grasshopper
We truly make a mistake when we deny the outcome of reality by saying, "It shouldn't have happened."
Suckle This: The Bosom of Being - Grasshopper
How much of our lives are spent on the receiving end of a dried up, cultural teat?
When Looking For A Sign, You May Miss The Exit - Grasshopper
Countless, unsuccessful attempts at seeking a sign to show up have not prevented us from continuing a practice that doesn't work.
You Have to Let Go of What Was in Order to Get to What Is - Grasshopper
"What was" intentions put too much of our attention on the past. The ego loves this because it has succeeded in convincing us that we can change the past and control the uncontrollable. We can't. "What is" puts our intention and attention on our present reality and what's possible.
We are Attracted to Those Who Will Discharge Our Tensions - Grasshopper
Dreams discharge tension; that's why this is the person of our dreams.
Stop Wishing for What You Don’t Want - Grasshopper
The more time you spend at this dried up well, the more you thirst for that which you cannot quench.
All Problems Have Solutions But Not Unless You Notice Them - Grasshopper
Too much of our effort in finding solutions is misplaced which delays them even longer.
You Can’t Fall Apart While Being Picked Apart - Grasshopper
Falling apart is a natural occurrence; picking apart is a mind made strategy that derails the process.
Your Thoughts Are Not Allowed In Heaven - Grasshopper
Best I can guess, everyone goes the same place when they die – let's call it heaven. The trick is to visit heaven as often as you can while you're living, so you can feel the aliveness of having no thoughts.
Life’s Menu Is Limited When You Only Shoot Fish In A Barrel - Grasshopper
The low hanging fruit will only feed you for so long and then real hunger appears.
Keeping Something At Arm’s Length Just Keeps It In Proximity - Grasshopper
The real chase begins with an embrace.
Feeling Sad Isn’t All Bad - Grasshopper
It can lead to peace of mind through peace of body.
Give Up Your Guru - Grasshopper
Inspiration without perspiration is all wet.
The Best Defense Is No Defense At All - Grasshopper
It may not work in football, but it is one of life's essential inclusion strategies.
There Is No Reply That Will Satisfy “Why?” - Grasshopper
"Why?" rarely produces factual answers, just a bevy of emotional justifications that keeps the truth hidden and peace at a distance.
Time Will Never Heal A Wound That Has An Enemy - Grasshopper
The jury may still be deliberating that "time heals all wounds," but there is no question we are bound to those whom we love forever.
The jury may still be deliberating that "time heals all wounds," but there is no question we are bound to those whom we love forever.
Worry Stops When You Die - Grasshopper
What you may not have noticed is there is another living, breathing remedy.
Bet On The Best Possible Outcome And You Will Never Lose - Grasshopper
Your odds of winning increase when you cease betting on what you want and start wagering on "What is."
The Flexibility Of Reality Is A Hard Thing To See - Grasshopper
The biggest blind spot we have as human beings is that we think that we live life. We live under the illusion of control. The opposite is true – life lives us. It's a reality. Here's another well kept secret: This animating force of life drives us, but as a passenger we cannot demand, but only suggest a route.
Humpty Dumpty And Spilt Milk Make A Great Omelet - Grasshopper
You can't unscramble an egg but you can have it be the base for something new.
Dreams Can Never Come True From A Position of Resistance - Grasshopper
Resistance is a condition that binds and blinds. Until the ropes are cut and the blindfold is removed, you'll stay tethered to the ground leaving the blue sky for others to find.
Your Willpower Wanes When Your Beliefs Remain The Same - Grasshopper
What happens when you run your life by an equation that is flawed? You get spotty results. The faulty calculus we've all learned revolves around the word "Willpower."
Redefining Reality Is A Full Time Job That Pays Paltry Wages - Grasshopper
Even the highest paid interpreters at the United Nations fail to communicate meaning. We also fail to find the illusive carrot called "meaning" when we continue to interpret reality and attempt to sell our definition of it as holy doctrine.
When You Stop Creating, You Stop The Flow Of Life - Grasshopper
Ask yourself: "Am I creating or existing on creations?" Your answer will clearly demonstrate whether you're fulfilling your life's purpose or drifting between circumstances.
The Christmas Spirit Is Love On Parade - Grasshopper
Whether you celebrate Christmas or not, there is something observable called "Christmas Spirit" that goes deeper than religion, gift giving and sharing a cup of cheer.
Feed Your Soul More Than Your Mind And Nourish Your Spirit - Grasshopper
It seems we have it "bass ackwards" which always leads to wanting more and getting less.
You Cannot Teach That Which You Are Unwilling To Learn - Grasshopper
We are all teachers with our lists of successes and failures. Our rate of success increases when we admit we know very little. That acknowledgement opens the flood gates to learning.
Your Favorite Color Isn’t The Only Choice - Grasshopper
It's hard to believe that in a box of 64 crayons we are able to narrow down our choice to just one preferred color, but we do.
If You Can’t Find It Here, You Won’t See It There - Grasshopper
Different Scenery, Same Destination - Grasshopper
There are many paths to heaven yet we remain busy arguing for ours.
If Your Life Is A Mere Footnote, Sing For More Than Just Kicks - Grasshopper
Going for just the gusto has you miss what sits below the foam.
Real Communication Begins When You Get Past Your Judgements - Grasshopper
When There Is No Container, You Cannot Be Contained - Grasshopper
Every Time You React, You Reenact - Grasshopper
Offer Your Presence And You’ll Always Bring A Gift - Grasshopper
When you bring nothing with you, you contribute to everyone's growth.
Your Addiction Reveals Your Affliction - Grasshopper
When you pick your poison, you can also spotlight the emotion that caused you to choose it.
When You Claim Something Doesn’t Affect You, It’s Already Taken Its Toll - Grasshopper
Even If You Never State It, You Communicate It - Grasshopper
The Scales Will Never Tip If You Keep Weighing Your Options - Grasshopper
You're stuck at a way station that keeps you weighted down when you wait for the scales to decide.
Being An Expert On The Problem Keeps You From Finding A Solution - Grasshopper
Defending The Strategy That Put You In A Ditch Makes Your Life A Continuing Abyss - Grasshopper
Behold The Moment And Take Your Life Off Hold - Grasshopper
When you participate in life, every moment is your moment.
When You Live Your Life In A Wishbowl, You Are Confined - Grasshopper
Swimming in circles is the best you can hope for when the only thing you possess is a wish.
Every Time You Try, You Lie - Grasshopper
"Try, try again" as your motto will have you win every audition for the part of Pinocchio.
Echoes And Shadows Are Mere Traces Of Reality - Grasshopper
Become Weary Of The Fight And You’ll Find The Light - Grasshopper
Accept the enlightened gift of surrender. It has no strings attached.
The Stock Market Is A Crock Market - Grasshopper
All Things Happen And Then We Reason - Grasshopper
When You Find Out More About People, You Find Out More About You - Grasshopper
Arguing With Yourself Is A One Person Play - Grasshopper
The Trouble With Not Noticing Leads To Trouble - Grasshopper
Purity Has No Equal - Grasshopper
Nothing compares to purity.
Life’s Hardest Mission Is Giving Up Control - Grasshopper
It would seem to be the easiest since control doesn’t exist, but that doesn’t keep us from insisting it does and attempting to bind people and things with non-existent rope.
Life Only Has One Real Choice – Responding - Grasshopper
When You Confuse Your Story With Your Life, You’re Stuck - Grasshopper
Every one of us has a story to tell and it’s telling how often it interferes with the flow of our life.
If Your Experience Doesn’t Match Your Philosophy, You’re Pretending - Grasshopper
Planning Allows You The Freedom To Be Spontaneous - Grasshopper
I’m wondering if you can remember how confident you felt when you actually studied for a test? It’s a much better feeling than having to struggle for answers, and it produces a better mindset with better results. The same is true in life.
A Notion Without Emotion is Just a Good Idea - Grasshopper
Good ideas are a penny a bushel. The ones that actually launch have a boatload of passion behind them. Any pursuit without passion is tiring and makes life feel lifeless.
The Fear To Act Is The Fear To Fail; Lots Of Action Is The Fear Of Death - Grasshopper
If You Only Judge And Never Feel, You Miss Your Life - Grasshopper
The Price Of Not Being A Victim – Priceless - Grasshopper
How much is your life worth? It's hard to set a limit on something so precious. Yet, we throw away our life every time we adhere to victimhood.
All Beliefs Are Exclusionary - Grasshopper
If you are human, you believe – but you weren't born that way. All beliefs are acquired and each acquisition comes with a built-in limitation – exclusion. Translation: Not like me.
Common Is The Norm, But It’s Not Normal - Grasshopper
If You're Married To A Philosophy, At Least Sleep In Separate Beds - Grasshopper
Everyone, stated or unstated, has a philosophy. It's our personal take on how thing are. Our most misguided move is when we turn a great date into a lousy marriage.
To Get More, Let More - Grasshopper
Being Done Wrong Is A Song Stuck In Everybody’s Head - Grasshopper
No wonder Country Music is so popular. The story lines that appear in the lyrics are a mirror of what goes on in our minds.
Holding On To A Grudge Holds Off Your Happiness - Grasshopper
Holding your story together about how another behaved is an inroad to impasse with no road signs pointing the way to happiness.
Life’s Hardest Challenge Is Finding Out Who You’re Not - Grasshopper
Life Is Passing You By If You Are Attempting To Solve It Rather Than Live It - Grasshopper
There’s Always Room At The Inn If You Create Space - Grasshopper
It may require knocking down a few walls, but the final result opens you up to unseen opportunities.
A Major Milestone Is Reached When You Discover The Difference Between What You Have And Who You Are - Grasshopper
Life Develops In The Dark - Grasshopper
It’s the unknown darkness that produces what can visibly be seen in the light of day.
We Too Often Offer Evidence For Who We Aren’t - Grasshopper
You Always Get What You Deserve - Grasshopper
The notion of deserve is an intellectual concept that has no counterpart in nature and is a giant glob of glue that keeps us from moving forward.
Addiction Is Fed By Emotional Cowardice - Grasshopper
There are all sorts of addictions – too many to name, but suffice it to say, they ain’t going away until we’re brave enough to feel our emotions.
When There’s Only One Way To Heaven, You Run Out Of Options - Grasshopper
How do we limit ourselves? Let me count the ways. The biggest one, of which, is having only one way.
Beliefs Are Frozen Thought Forms - Grasshopper
If you can’t warm up to someone else’s beliefs, there’s good reason – They are frozen. And so are yours.
The Only Thing That Separates You From Your Treasure Is Thought - Grasshopper
This is not the treasure you think about; it's the one you can only experience.
The Universal Fear Is Being Found Out - Grasshopper
Your secret fear is shared by every thinking being on earth – that they’ll figure out you’re not the person you pretend to be.
You Can't Fail The Test Because There Isn't One - Grasshopper
Unsolicited Advice Comes With A Price - Grasshopper
Whether you are the giver or receiver, you'll get stuck with the bill.
Your Guardian Angel Isn't Your Conscience - Grasshopper
Your conscience is conditioned; your angel is creative.
Heartbreak Is A Pathway To Life - Grasshopper
If you've never had your heart broken, you haven't really lived.
Remove "Because" And Outgrow Your Behavior - Grasshopper
"I'm _______________ because of _______________" is the blueprint for delaying a solution.
Your Life Lives Between A Snapshot And A Vision - Grasshopper
A snapshot is always about the past; a vision is always about the future. The question is: “What reflects what’s going on now?”
Before Your Beliefs, There Was You - Grasshopper
Spontaneity Spawns Creativity - Grasshopper
But what gives birth to spontaneity? Noticing you're about to enter a big, black hole again.
Just The Way You Are Is The Only Place You Can Begin - Grasshopper
"That's just the way I am" is almost always a justification to stay the same. Looked at from a slightly different angle, a similar statement can be a springboard to outgrow paralyzing conditioning.
Are You Playing A Game Of Skill Or Chance? - Grasshopper
Odds are, you may have your eggs in the basket where they'll easily crack.
If Excuses Were Currency, We’d All Prosper - Grasshopper
No transaction takes place when all we offer are excuses.
Moments Are Like Identical Twins – No Two Are Alike - Grasshopper
When we lump moments together or compare one to another, we miss the snowflake quality each moment brings.
Looking Back Is The Mother Of Detention - Grasshopper
Wonderful memories are to be celebrated and cherished and when you have a steady diet of looking back, you impede your progress.
Not Knowing The Answer Isn’t A Crime; Being Unwilling To Learn Is - Grasshopper
Many parents have mastered the art of making you feel stupid. Unfortunately, I count myself among them. It only takes one question – "You didn't know that?"
The Most Prized Real Estate Contains No Land - Grasshopper
Pure and simple, the most prized treasure is space – the one between your thoughts.
Rivers Have Beds But They Don’t Take Naps - Grasshopper
Did you ever notice that nature is effortlessly efficient in what it does? – No complex instruction manual needed. Simply put: Nature doesn't waste energy; it doesn't tire itself out.
The Death Of Respect Is The Beginning Of The End - Grasshopper
Whether we realize it or not, something is coming to, or is already at, an end when we devalue its worth.
The Step You’re On Now Determines Your Path - Grasshopper
Perhaps it's never occurred to you but the most important step is the one you are on now.
The Unwelcomed Visitor Eventually Needs A Hug - Grasshopper
Have you ever uttered the words, "I never expected that to happen to me"? But, for better or worse, it did happen and you met reality. This is a close encounter of the human kind that when recognized and given proper attention, causes a shift – one that helps us find a hidden gear.
Destination Frustration: Lie Until You Die - Grasshopper
The TV character, HOUSE has revealed an eternal truth: "Everybody Lies." And the biggest way to ensure continued frustration into eternity is to keep that practice alive.
When Respect And Gratitude Head Out The Door, They Leave It Open For Lack And Attack - Grasshopper
When my youngest son was taking swimming lessons, his instructor told him the magic words were "reach and pull." That worked well in the pool, but the magic words that work in life are . . .
Your Filters Color Your Future - Grasshopper
We all know expressions like, "The rich get richer" and "if it weren't for bad luck, I wouldn't have any luck at all," but we never investigate the process, only rail against the reality. This practice signifies a clogged filter.
Truth Doesn’t Bend - Grasshopper
The new global pastime is bending the facts to fit your truth. It's evident in politics, religion and other topics you don't talk about in mixed company.
Find The Gear That Works - Disengage - Grasshopper
We have many gears available but finding the one that works is the trick. You find it when you disengage.
Life Remains Dead When You Live Inside Your Head - Grasshopper
Have you ever repeatedly turned on a light switch during a power failure? Then you know the frustration of attempting to light your life without access to your power.
Memory Does More Than Link You To Your Past - Grasshopper
Life Is A Sensation, Not An Emotion - Grasshopper
What Love Song Are You Living? - Grasshopper
Did you ever notice that love songs mainly address one of three time frames – Then, Now and When?
Explore The Room Rather Than The Gloom - Grasshopper
Gloom sits in an isolated corner and rarely, if ever, notices the real estate that surrounds it.
The Fork Less Traveled - Grasshopper
The Passport To Creativity Is Silence - Grasshopper
You can gain entry to creativity in a crowded, noisy, external environment, but the border guard will not give you access until you are internally silent.
Your Focus Determines Your Future - Grasshopper
Sometimes we need to be reminded that what's out of focus requires our focus. It's not because we don't know what area to focus on, we just need a cue to get a clue to begin looking there.
Noticing There Is No Control Is The Only Control You Have - Grasshopper
It seems we all want to be in control; yet we are thwarted at every turn. Control, as we know it, is fleeting.
“Thank You” Is On Life Support - Grasshopper
"Thank You" is not dead yet, but rumor has it that the last rites are being administered.
Is Your Stunt Double Living Your Life? - Grasshopper
We get robbed of our life when we let someone else live it. Who is it that has stolen our identity and is representing us to the world?
Change Never Changes - Grasshopper
Nothing has changed since Greek philosopher, Heraclitus told us that “Change is the only constant.”
Life’s Missed Opportunity Is Wasting Your Freedom Of Choice - Grasshopper
Who can't remember that first feeling of freedom of having to answer to no one and doing what you wanted to do, when you wanted to do it?
Give Up Hope And Hope Will Return - Grasshopper
I admit that I'm not a big fan of hope. I have it in the "wish" category and have rarely seen evidence of it working. With that said, there is a human need for hope. So how do you get it back when it's in short supply?
Are You Being Wronged By Your Conditioning? - Grasshopper
If you don't think something is right or wrong, there must be something wrong with you, or at least that's what we believe.
Evidence Of Being An Adult: When You Do Nice Things For People Who Aren’t Nice To You - Grasshopper
Your Mom was half right, but she forgot to tell you the second part of the wisdom: If you can’t DO something nice for somebody, do nothing at all.
Living On The Edge Will Sharpen Your Skills - Grasshopper
If you listen to the conversations in the deli line, at a local bar or to the needs of a person in therapy, the common thread seems to be the goal of an unchallenged life. It’s this quest for the middle that dulls our desires.
True Magic Lies In Knowing The Trick - Grasshopper
If You Live Your Life Like It’s Ending, You’ll Never Begin Living - Grasshopper
Going Halfway Is Only A Halfway Measure - Grasshopper
Unaccepted Reality Always Causes Pain - Grasshopper
You Turn A Blind Eye To That Which You Can’t See - Grasshopper
Drowning Your Sorrows Insures They’ll Be Here Tomorrow - Grasshopper
Guilt And Shame Are Not The Same: One Triggers An Apology The Other Cannot Muster - Grasshopper
Hate Is A Stop On The Way – Not A Final Destination - Grasshopper
Accepting Reality Is An Oxymoron - Grasshopper
Standing On Principle May Get You Expelled - Grasshopper
Visits To The State Of Flow Are Quiet Accidents - Grasshopper
The Gift Most Often Left Unopened - Response - Grasshopper
New Beginnings Start At An Endpoint - Grasshopper
When You Are Full Of Yourself, Your Tank Is Empty - Grasshopper
Swimming After A Sailing Ship Is An Exercise In Drowning - Grasshopper
To Replace, Make A Space - Grasshopper
Self Assessment Leads To Self Acceptance - Grasshopper
Right And Wrong Are Reflections Of Each Other - Grasshopper
Thrive Or Survive? It’s A Mindset - Grasshopper
True Or False: Are You Living The Dream? - Grasshopper
Human Beings Selectively Love And Hate, And Both Qualities Blind - Grasshopper
Meaningful Is In The Mind Of The Beholder - Grasshopper
Life’s Common Dread: Being Caught Inside Your Head - Grasshopper
Who Am I? Looking For An Answer? - Grasshopper
You Can’t Escape The Pain Of Complain - Grasshopper
When Peace Is Out Of Focus, You’re Focused On Something Else - Grasshopper
Life’s Retouch: Repainting Your Perspective - Grasshopper
You Don’t Consciously Remember That Which You Want To Forget - Grasshopper
Shame: It’s What You Think About What They Think - Grasshopper
For Dust To Settle You Have To Stop Kicking It Up - Grasshopper
If You Get In By Accident, Get Out On Purpose - Grasshopper
The Container Doesn’t Care; It Only Carries What’s In There - Grasshopper
All The Information Isn’t In The Library - Grasshopper
A Pause Precedes Wisdom - Grasshopper
Freedom: Unmasking Your Secret Identity - Grasshopper
Freedom is a buzzword that is rarely quantified. This elusive concept has been walking around in disguise, and once the mask is removed, we intimately know the true identity of freedom.
Turn The Tables On Temptation - Grasshopper
Temptation is most often couched in terms of something that’s wrong. Rarely do we hear that temptation is a catalyst for stoking one’s aliveness.
You Can’t Say “No” To Reality - Grasshopper
Reality Never Breaks A Promise - Grasshopper
Having Appreciation For Others Helps You Develop - Grasshopper
The Peanut Is Unknowable Until There’s A Crack In The Shell - Grasshopper
How well do you know someone? You will be in the dark until you get a peek inside.
Patterns of Behavior Are Yesterday’s Memories Projected Upon Today - Grasshopper
Depression: Believing “What Is” Shouldn’t Be - Grasshopper
Indifference: The Wall Around Your Heart - Grasshopper
There Is No Hierarchy In Heaven - Grasshopper
If You’re Driven By Your Standards, It’s Harder To Reach Your Goals - Grasshopper
Power Outages Are The Rule Rather Than The Exception - Grasshopper
Small Adjustments Start Big Changes - Grasshopper
“Our routines run us” is the foundation of what I believe, and when our routines don’t serve us well, we opt for wholesale change. That practice rarely works, and if it does, it’s often short lived.
Someone’s Looking Out For Number One When They Speak In The Third Person - Grasshopper
An Unexamined Life Is The Result Of One, Unasked Question - Grasshopper
Happy Accidents Are Realities That Are Labeled As Coincidences - Grasshopper
You Rob Yourself of Life When You Dance Away From Your Depth - Grasshopper
Getting Attention Is Easier Than Keeping Attention - Grasshopper
Before You Hibernate, Show Your Most Brilliant Colors - Grasshopper
Innate vs. Intellect: Life’s Every Day Conflict - Grasshopper
There is a war going on within us every day. It’s not good vs. evil, although that’s what many would have us believe. The battle that rages is between what we know and what we think we know. Like all battles, a cease fire or surrender is necessary in order for peace to have a chance.
Adulthood: Discovering You Are Response-Able - Grasshopper
What You Know At A Deeper Level Is What You Don’t Know - Grasshopper
Turning Up The Volume Reduces Our Ability To Listen - Grasshopper
A Genuine Leader Finds His Way Before He Finds Followers - Grasshopper
If You’re Always The Hero Of Your Story, You Aren’t Very Brave - Grasshopper
Give Up The Grudge Against Forgiveness - Grasshopper
How Many Answers Does Your Question Provide? - Grasshopper
“Good, Better, Best” Are Words That Cause Unrest - Grasshopper
Happy Renew Year! - Grasshopper
Cancel My Subscription! - Grasshopper
Reality Contains Both The Problem And The Solution - Grasshopper
Life Is An Inside Out Proposition - Grasshopper
Live Up To Now Not Down To The Advertising - Grasshopper
When You Withhold, You Hold Yourself Back - Grasshopper
Is Your Style Cramping Your Style? - Grasshopper
Stop Renting Scapegoats And Own Your Emotions - Grasshopper
Reality Isn’t Always Polite, Even Though It’s Always Right - Grasshopper
Adapt or Control? One Path Makes You Less Than Whole - Grasshopper
Keep Your Sensations Closer Than Your Thoughts - Grasshopper
Right or Wrong Have Camps; “Is” Has No Boundaries - Grasshopper
Once Upon A Time Is A Time Bound Strategy - Grasshopper
A Life Preserver: Hitting Rock Bottom - Grasshopper
To Become Less Judgemental, Become More Present - Grasshopper
Reinvent Your Future By Not Recreating Your Past - Grasshopper
Formula For Failure: Let Your Trust Rust - Grasshopper
A Brainchild Springs Forth From A Pregnant Pause - Grasshopper
One Of Life’s Most Useful Skills Is To Embrace Chaos - Grasshopper
Ask God For Directions, Not A Completed Mission - Grasshopper
Changing Your Response Is Easier Than Changing Your Life - Grasshopper
Our Priorities Are Dictated By Our Patterns - Grasshopper
Reality Doesn’t Go In Reverse - Grasshopper
Life’s Second Lease is Peace - Grasshopper
Operation Unreal: Not Wanting To Feel - Grasshopper
You Have To Know What Happiness Is In Order To Be Happy - Grasshopper
CHOICE: The Option Less Traveled - Grasshopper
Conundrum: The Measure Of A Person Is Their Depth, Which Can’t Be Measured - Grasshopper
When There’s Nothing To Shoot For, You’ll Shoot Yourself In The Foot - Grasshopper
It takes some target practice to hit what you’re shooting for, but if you’re aimless, you can’t be held blameless for missing out on life.
When We Hide, We Miss Being Alive - Grasshopper
Acting On Headlines Will Make You Frown - Grasshopper
Q: Who Are You? A: The Awareness Beyond The Labels - Grasshopper
One of life’s certainties is that any label you accept or that adheres to you will limit you. When you recognize your awareness, the labels peel away and won’t stand in your way.
“I Will” Doesn’t Equal “I Do” - Grasshopper
A Magic Bullet Is The One Not Shot - Grasshopper
Creativity Is Quietly Quick - Grasshopper
Control Is Fear Of Losing - Grasshopper
If you haven’t exhibited controlling behavior, you’re probably not human. We all do it, but to what end?
A Well Developed Life Is Like A Photograph - Grasshopper
The Price Of Friendship Is Investment - Grasshopper
Your Excuse Is Your Destiny - Grasshopper
Your Future Is Happening Now - Grasshopper
Dreaming Of Effort Keeps You Dreaming - Grasshopper
Unexpressed Fear Will Express Itself - Grasshopper
You’ve Never Won An Argument With Your Mind - Grasshopper
Let Your Past Outgrow You - Grasshopper
Lots of unsuccessful effort goes into putting our past behind us. That's because we treat our past with disrespect, which keeps it on the front burner.
Lots of unsuccessful effort goes into putting our past behind us. That's because we treat our past with disrespect, which keeps it on the front burner.
When You’re Out Of Ideas, Get Out Of Your Head - Grasshopper
We all get stuck in the same place every time, but we fail to pinpoint our geography and keep looking for answers covering the same ground.
Discover Yourself In The Arc Of A Thought - Grasshopper
I See In You What I Don’t See In Me - Grasshopper
Reclaim Your Spirit And Take Aim On Living - Grasshopper
For An Abundant Life, Asking Is Mandatory - Grasshopper
Accepting Another’s Happiness Is A Prerequisite For You To Claim Yours - Grasshopper
No Justification Changes Reality - Grasshopper
We Speak To Give Voice To The Unspeakable - Grasshopper
Life Gets Simpler When You Simplify - Grasshopper
Your Resolve Is Your Bravest, Yet Weakest, Soldier - Grasshopper
Derision Is An Inferior Method of Supervision - Grasshopper
You Corner Yourself When You Paint With Reasons - Grasshopper
Belief: An Idea You’ve Gotten Comfortable With - Grasshopper
You Rent Until You “Buy In” And Own It - Grasshopper
Notice: Resumes Are Not Filled With Things You Tried To Do - Grasshopper
Living Is About What You’re Doing vs. What You’ve Done - Grasshopper
If I Can Only Help You Be Me, I Can’t Help You - Grasshopper
You Truly Can’t Let Go Of Something Until You Let Go Of Everything - Grasshopper
“I’ve Got Your Back” Is More Powerful Than “I Love You.” - Grasshopper
Excellence: Getting Better At What You’re Good At - Grasshopper
No need to get into an argument about who is the best at something; it results in an exercise of opposing opinions. Excellence is more easily agreed upon and more achievable.
Your Special Invitation Arrives Every Day - Grasshopper
“Let’s Pretend” Opens Up A Closed End - Grasshopper
Reality: A Belief Everyone Can Believe In - Grasshopper
First Impressions Last Until They Don’t - Grasshopper
Beliefs Are Paintings In Your Mind - Grasshopper
If you want to show someone the contents of your mind, put your beliefs on display. It's kinda' like your personal art show.
Selfishness: Passing On Your Prejudice - Grasshopper
Deception: Saying The Right Things From The Wrong Place - Grasshopper
Seeking Validation For The Way You Are Keeps You The Way You Are - Grasshopper
Happiness Comes From You, Not To You - Grasshopper
Helping Someone Into A Healing Frame Of Mind Heals A Part Of You - Grasshopper
Embracing Reality Begins With An Atypical Response - Grasshopper
Peace Isn’t Selective - Grasshopper
Yes Is The “Piece De Resistance” For Overcoming Resistance - Grasshopper
“Yes” is not in our used vocabulary often enough. Too often we default to “No” and that leaves us nowhere to go.
HOPE: Expanding The Frame Of Possibility - Grasshopper
Your Saving Grace: Be Present To Reality - Grasshopper
If You Cannot Support Someone’s Dream, Don’t Stand In Their Way - Grasshopper
Is Or Isn’t Are The Only Choices - Grasshopper
Something either exists or it doesn't. If it does, it doesn't need our belief in it to sustain its existence.
Reclaiming Our Depth Can’t Be Done In The Shallow End Of The Pool - Grasshopper
It seems counter-intuitive but, in life, we move from depth to superficial.
Getting back to our depth means giving up our "life preserver."
Resistance Brings You Closer To The Things You Resist - Grasshopper
you resist persists." What he didn't tell us is that it gets closer with each
Whenever You Get Ahead Of Yourself, You’re Sure To Fall Behind - Grasshopper
You can't play the 18th hole of a golf course when you're on the 16th
fairway. If you mentally start something else, while in the middle of what
you're currently doing, the present moment loses its biggest asset – Attention.
Broaden Your World And Connect More Often - Grasshopper
I had my first, fresh fig this weekend. Generally, at my
age, people don't try something new, but boy am I glad I did. They are yummy.
Successful Lives Are A Series Of Adjustments Rather Than Wholesale Changes - Grasshopper
When people tell me they want to change, they are usually looking at a LARGE mountain and rarely make it past the foothills. That's because change is too big a chunk; adjustments are bite-sized and more easily digested.
Acting Like You’re Special Dims Your Specialness - Grasshopper
We are all unique and that alone makes us special. It's when we think we deserve special treatment that we cause our specialness to spoil.
Pick The Fruits Of Your Labor Before They Die On The Vine - Grasshopper
Today is Labor Day in The USA, a day to honor the worker. We do anything but and dishonor our toil when we idly standby and let our efforts perish.
Life Without Pauses Is An Ongoing Train Wreck - Grasshopper
How often do we forget to pause? It's the main reason we run into so many walls, again.
“It Should Be The Way It’s Not” Is The Strongest Glue You’ll Step Into - Grasshopper
The easiest way to get stuck is to step into a pile of "should." It's also the most preventable.
When You Only Cite, What You Are Saying Comes Across As Trite - Grasshopper
I love a good quote and, like you, I have my favorites. Where a red flag goes up is when I experience someone who is forever telling me what someone else said. They may as well say, “My creativity is dead.”
Reflection Is Different Than Thinking Things Over - Grasshopper
“Thinking things over” means you go over and over the same territory; reflection offers an exit strategy to a remedy.
Are You “At Fault” Or Are You “Responsible”? - Grasshopper
I believe we benefit greatly by making a distinction between "it's my fault" and "I'm responsible."
End The Debate Before Your Life Ends - Grasshopper
The debate you're involved in will still go on long after you're no longer involved, in fact, forever.
Ah-Ha Moments Without Action Become What Ifs - Grasshopper
Have you ever been struck with a realization and didn’t realize any result? No need to raise your hand; we all have.
Are You Experiencing YOU Or Just Reporting on YOU? - Grasshopper
YOU are much deeper than your name, rank and serial number. YOU can't be quantified, only experienced. The question is: Do you want to write a book report or have the experience itself?
Curiosity Solves Life’s Puzzles - Grasshopper
"What are my options?" is a question I don't believe we ask enough. My guess is we don't ask because we think there aren't any, or that, if there are, there is no option that would work. Remaining stuck is the result of not asking.
Your Mind Can Only Suggest Action, Not Take It - Grasshopper
Here's my claim: The longer you think about it, the less likely you are to do it. It's tough to talk yourself into your walk.
You Find What You Bring With You - Grasshopper
Have you ever gone out to eat with someone who finds fault with every restaurant you go to? They were upset before they arrived and are hard pressed to see it's not the bill of fare that has, as my sainted mother said, "their ass in an uproar."
Last In Line Won’t Last - Grasshopper
Priorities on the bottom of your list should be called something else, because they're anything but.
Reasons Don’t Get You A Re-Do - Grasshopper
Reasons are justifications in another suit of clothes, especially when we make less than productive choices. They are often attempts at explanations to absolve us of responsibility for behavior. Notice how often you use reasons when you want a second chance.
Positions Need to Become Porous to Become Options - Grasshopper
Do you have a position on something? Who doesn’t? What may not be as readily apparent is how inflexible we become when our positions are solid.
Beliefs Get Results - Grasshopper
Before you go and put The Grasshopper’s words on a bumper sticker, let me caution you that you may not like the results.
Pick One: Be Right or Be Happy - Grasshopper
Lots of us have an investment in being right. I just wonder if we ever did the arithmetic on how much happiness it costs us.
I Doesn’t Need To Improve - Grasshopper
Before you hop on The Grasshopper for poor English, let me interpret what he means by “I.”
Sleeping Lies Will Dog You - Grasshopper
“Everybody Lies” claimed my favorite TV doctor – Gregory House. What he didn’t tell us is that our trail of lies leaves a scent, and leaves us open to hounding from within and without.
How Useful is Your Lie? - Grasshopper
What do you know for sure that you’re not so sure about? Is there something you spout as “Truth” that you may be unknowingly lying about? Perhaps it’s time to separate truth from usefulness.
Pursuit is the Path to Fulfillment - Grasshopper
Getting what you're going after pales in comparison to the feeling that pursuit delivers. The destination seems anti-climactic when measured against the fulfillment that pursuit brings.
What Do You Want? It’s a Feeling - Grasshopper
We all want something. What we may not realize is that we're not really after the something; we're after the feeling.
Who Can Be On Your Island? - Grasshopper
For years I’ve used the expression, “You can be on my island” with people I’ve worked with. I used the phrase as a compliment, but wasn’t totally sure until recently what I meant by it.
Importance Only Exists In Our Mind - Grasshopper
How many things are important? I'm sure you have a list. But did you ever stop to consider that importance doesn't exist. It's something we made up.
An Original Thought Can’t be Bought - Grasshopper
It seems odd that a clichéd phrase was once an original thought. But notice how something novel gets worn and tired when we repetitively attempt to get others to buy into it being the only way.
If You Want Something Conditionally, There’s A Good Chance You Don’t Really Want It - Grasshopper
I have often claimed that if I can't have a BIG boat, then I don't want one. What was I really communicating by my BIG condition? — That I don't believe I'll ever have one.
Life’s Biggest Cop Out: I’m Not Responsible For Me - Grasshopper
The truth is: We're always able to respond. We just keep picking the response that says we're not responsible.
Meaning Is Meaningless - Grasshopper
Often when people tell me what they want, I ask a follow-up question like: "What will that do for you?" If their answer has any form of the phrase "that means" in it, they will often be disappointed even if they achieve their goal.
Ripening Is A Reality; Time Is A Concept - Grasshopper
We are all aging. You can take that to the bank. “Age is just a number” we’ve often heard said. Yet, too many have become focused on how many minutes they’ve been alive or how many they have left until they’re dead.
Notice Your Reactions And You’ll Notice Your Patterns - Grasshopper
We are all creatures of habit and no more is that so than when we are reacting.
If You Can’t Count On Yourself, You Can’t Count On Anyone - Grasshopper
Are you counting on someone to come through for you? It could be a long wait, especially if you can’t be counted on.
Reasons Are Refutable - Grasshopper
Are you in the habit of giving reasons for your behavior? The un-refuted truth is that most of your reasons have an infinite amount of counterarguments which, when played out, lead to a life of arguing.
Judgements Don’t Change Things - Grasshopper
Did you ever notice that the amount of judgements we have that result in change are almost nonexistent?
There’s A Difference Between “Beware” And “Be Aware” - Grasshopper
Beware is always a warning; be aware is always a revelation.
When Conversation Turns Into Competition, You No Longer Have Communication - Grasshopper
Make no mistake; tit for tat is always combat.
Growing Up Is Outgrowing Your Conditioning - Grasshopper
How badly we want to defend our conditioning is a barometer on how immature we are.
Peace Can Be Found In The Land That Doesn’t Matter - Grasshopper
There’s a place where dustups don’t exist. It’s “The Land That Doesn’t Matter.”
Simple And Easy Are Not Synonyms - Grasshopper
The best example is the game of golf – It’s simple but not easy – simple to understand, not so easy to play. Ask any golfer.
Situations Become Problems When We Think Too Much - Grasshopper
I wonder how many times we’ve labeled a situation a problem and elongated the time it took to come up with a solution.
Success Lies Outside Your Comfort Zone - Grasshopper
It's my experience that marginal results come from staying inside our zone of comfort. If you claim you want success, you can't refrain from moving towards the edge.
You’ll Find Most Complaints At The Intersection Of ‘Should’ and ‘Is’ - Grasshopper
We all have complaints and some of them have extraordinary merit, yet most of them are avoidable accidents, if we notice.
The Need To Be Right Keeps Us Disagreeable - Grasshopper
As far as I can tell, being right is the biggest impediment to arriving at agreement.
Heeding Heads You Home - Grasshopper
What's the one piece of advice you need to heed? You may have heard it all your life but actually putting it to use fulfills the promise.
Clarity: Getting The Answer To The Question You Don’t Want To Ask - Grasshopper
Amazing the things we don't ask about that would make a situation crystal clear instead of having to rely on a crystal ball.
“Don’t Want” Is A Difficult Target To Hit - Grasshopper
If you pay careful attention to your language when expressing your desires, you’re likely to notice that you too often give voice to what you don’t want rather than what you do want. That’s a fuzzy target.
Unintended Consequences Are Still Consequences - Grasshopper
"I didn't mean for that to happen"doesn't remove the consequence. It may mitigate it in our mind but it won't make it disappear.
The Only People Who Don’t Get Second Chances Died Taking The First One - Grasshopper
I guess that’s The Grasshopper’s peculiar way of saying, “If you’re drawing breath, you still have an opportunity at a second chance.”
Conditioning Is King - Grasshopper
I had the good fortune of attending two family reunions over the weekend. What fun and what insight. It’s absolutely amazing to see the role conditioning has played in forming whom we’ve come to be.
We Dislike People Most Who Have Imperfections We Pretend We Don’t Have - Grasshopper
There are no perfect people, yet we pretend we’re one of them when we deny our imperfections.
Bring The Party Or Remain A Disappointed Guest - Grasshopper
I can’t tell you the exact moment of realization, but it was many years ago when I discovered that waiting for the party to happen keeps you waiting.
Vibrant Life Requires Improv - Grasshopper
Want to improve your life? Apply improv.
Getting Attention Requires Doing Something; Capturing Attention Requires Giving Something - Grasshopper
There is a large difference between getting and capturing attention. The difference lies between give and take.
What’s The One Thing That Changed Your Life For The Better? - Grasshopper
It’s out of character for The Grasshopper to ask a question but this one is so worthy of reflection.
People Are Who They Are, Not Who We Want Them to Be - Grasshopper
How much time have you wasted wanting someone to be who they aren’t?
Inspired Teachings Don’t Come With Rules - Grasshopper
You won’t 1-2-3 yourself to inspiration; it doesn’t come in an orderly fashion.
An Underlying Agenda Keeps You Lying - Grasshopper
When something is different below decks than it is above, we commonly lie. The rub is this: Surface lip service only works for so long before what we’re hiding is exposed.
Hypocrisy: It’s Just A Matter Of Degree - Grasshopper
I can’t say with certainty that “everyone is a hypocrite,” but I want to.
Echoes Are Exponential - Grasshopper
What you do comes back to you, in spades.
Loose Ends Are The Weakest Links - Grasshopper
The old axiom is: "You are only as strong as your weakest link." If you are having trouble finding that link, look no further than something you've neglected to tie up.
Discernment Gives Way To Judgement When Preferences Turn Into Prejudices - Grasshopper
This bon mot from The Grasshopper is like an Australian Backscratcher – it gets way “down under.”
Hindsight Is Rarely 20-20 - Grasshopper
Hindsight is foggy, made opaque by a memory that’s tinted with rose-colored “specks.”
Make The Stamp Of Approval Stick - Grasshopper
Some of us may want to be on a postage stamp but most of us just want a stamp of approval.
Calendar: Timer Or Planner? - Grasshopper
How do you use a calendar? It makes all the difference in your quality of life.
Absolute Truth Is Made Up Of Infinite Versions - Grasshopper
I’m sure you’ve heard the expression, “your version of the truth,” but do you know what comprises absolute truth? I believe I can explain.
The One Thing To Know For Sure Is That Nothing Is A Sure Thing - Grasshopper
We all get into “set and forget”mode with many things. It’s useful that we don’t have to figure out how to turn a doorknob each time we encounter one; it’s less than useful to be certain about something that can’t be known for sure.
Talk Turkey Without The Trimmings - Grasshopper
Turkey, by itself, will not make you fat; all the trimmings will. Trimming the fat from your “Turkey Talk”indicates your willingness and seriousness in pursuing a solution.
Are you sending out an S.O.S.? - Grasshopper
Seems we all send out some sort of signal when we need help, even though we may not know we're transmitting.
Tough Questions Lead To Real World Answers - Grasshopper
Most of us are not conditioned to ask tough questions. "It's just not done in a polite society," may be the message you were weaned on, but that's often a bad formula when you need an actionable answer.
Freedom Results When Something Gives You Up - Grasshopper
I suspect we have it backwards. We think we have to give things up to get freedom from them. I find the opposite to be more realistic.
Addiction Is Another Word for Craving - Grasshopper
Addiction is a myth. If you were really addicted to something, you could never outgrow it. You would stay in its clutches forever.
Married To Misery Demands Divorce - Grasshopper
You can't just separate from your misery; you need a clean break. "Married to Misery" is being married to the thoughts in your mind and the story on your lips.
Are You Getting Happy To Numb Unhappiness? - Grasshopper
Like you, I've known my fair share of drunks. When I'm around them, it's not a happy experience for me and even less so for them.
Destiny Is A Dodge - Grasshopper
The dodge referred to is not a mid size sedan but an excuse to explain our current lot in life.
Knowing Is Not Found In Books - Grasshopper
What do you know? That’s what people put in books, magazines, newspapers, blogs, etc. – what they know or think they know. But knowing can’t be contained on a page.
You’re Eventually Going To Leave Your Problems Behind; So Consider Now - Grasshopper
I've stated it before but it bears repeating: Dead people don't have problems.
Are You Apathetically Empathetic? - Grasshopper
The question almost seems like a contradiction in terms – Apathetic: “Don’t care,” Empathetic: “Feeling another’s pain
Guilt Isn’t A Thing; It’s A Pattern Of Thinking - Grasshopper
How guilty can you feel? You didn't have to be brought up by a Jewish mother or raised Catholic to answer. We all feel guilt. And although it's a noun, it's not a thing.
Hope is Hopeless - Grasshopper
Fernando Flores once said, “Hope is the raw material for losers.” My definition isn’t as harsh but just as hopeless. “Hope is the salve we put on our feelings while we’re waiting for reality to render its result.”
Expectation vs. Entitlement - Grasshopper
It occurred to me recently that expectation and entitlement are intertwined but with a huge difference.
Increase Your Peace Of Mind By Making Your Regrets Reflections - Grasshopper
There is a powerful tool that came out of the world of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) called reframing. It's the process of shifting your focus to a more advantageous interpretation.
The Permanence Of Impermanence - Grasshopper
Impermanence is everywhere at all times – kinda’ like dog poo. But like animal droppings, we get fixated on impermanence to the exclusion of everything else that smells better.
A Reactive Mind Will Remain In The Dark - Grasshopper
As long as our reactions remain patterned, there's no room for anything new to shine through.
Reality Has No Brakes - Grasshopper
I hate to be the one who breaks the news but there is no stopping reality. No matter how hard you try or how hard you pray, there is no stopping night from becoming day.
Does Kindness Work? - Grasshopper
It’s one thing to realize that kindness works. It’s another thing to practice kindness so that you can feel it working.
Applying The Brakes Too Soon Wears You Down - Grasshopper
How easy is it to say “No”? By doing so, we are wary before wary becomes necessary and overuse our stopping mechanism preventing us from seeing new vistas.
Is There Order In Chaos? - Grasshopper
Seems to me that we can’t have it both ways: there being an order to the universe, yet chaos within that order.
Answers Begin With Questions - Grasshopper
In a world looking for answers, I believe we too often overlook the key to answers: Questions!
You Can’t Download When Your Drive Is Full - Grasshopper
This isn’t about computers, but rather inspiration.
Insight Is Absent Of Thinking - Grasshopper
I'm wondering how many times we've said we want to think it over, not knowing that thinking will never produce the insight we're looking for.
Every Mess Is Not Yours To Clean Up - Grasshopper
At the market yesterday, I saw a package of flour tortilla shells on the floor. Apparently someone dropped them. My normal inclination would be to pick them up - but not this time.
"Because" Justifies; It Doesn’t Explain - Grasshopper
If there is one word worthy of being retired, it's "because."
Life Is An Event - Grasshopper
Notice that life starts as a “blessed event.” For many, events stop after that.
Doing Good Doesn’t Guarantee A Long Life; It Only Insures A Life Of Feeling Good - Grasshopper
I watched the funeral of Beau Biden this weekend and was taken with how he was viewed by such a cross section of people: a good person who did good.
When You Stop And Notice The Spaces Between The Noise, That’s When You Recognize Life’s Creative Force - Grasshopper
When you stop and think about it, every noise comes out of a void. It wasn’t there and then it was. And then it goes back to where it came from.
Anything Is More Probable If You Go After The Impossible - Grasshopper
We usually hear it in a different way: All things are possible but not all things are probable.
You Can’t Lose Something You Didn’t Have - Grasshopper
I often hear people talk about things they lost that they didn't have. "Because that deal didn't go through, I lost a lot of money." More accurately, you didn't make the money. You didn't lose it because it was never in your pocket.
An Invitation To Live Is Issued When You Realize That Life Will Go On Without You - Grasshopper
My apologies to anyone counting on reincarnation but my sense is this is our one go-round inviting us to live now.
If Arguing About The Cause Will Fix The Problem, Let’s Argue - Grasshopper
“A” causes “B” will be argued about until eternity, and the problem will go unchecked for a lifetime.
Perpetual Anger Is A Death Sentence - Grasshopper
Who hasn’t been angry? We’ve all experienced the feeling we call anger but have we noticed the damage it causes when it’s our constant state?
Silent Listening - A Way To Peace - Grasshopper
Here's a meditation I use when doing other things, like walking our dog. I listen for the silence noises leave behind.
The Escape Hatch From Your Life’s Story Is Presence - Grasshopper
What is presence and how does it help you escape?
You’ll Run Out Of Breath Before You Run Out Of Excuses - Grasshopper
Have you ever noticed that excuses are never ending? The antithesis of personal culpability comes in the form of an excuse, the constant issuance of which will leave you breathless.
Leave Magical Thinking At The Children’s Birthday Party - Grasshopper
Magical thinking is the brand of pap that suggests all you have to do is “Conceive it and Believe it” to make it happen.
Change Is Constant But Seems To Come In Waves - Grasshopper
The Greek Philosopher Heraclitus told us, “The only thing that is constant is change.” Yet, there are many things that seem constantly stationary and only appear to change in waves. Do you believe Heraclitus or your own lyin’ eyes?
The Problem And The Solution Are Both Right Now - Grasshopper
Problems caused in the past are not still in the past. If they haven’t been addressed, they’re problems now.
Mindset Migration Is More Than Alliteration - Grasshopper
A mindset is a pattern of thinking. We often have a different patterned reaction to the same stimulus, which proves we have the capability to migrate from one mindset to another.
Attitude Is An Angle Of Approach - Grasshopper
In aeronautical terms, "attitude" is an angle of approach. With what attitude are you approaching life?
Seek Acceptance Rather Than Answers - Grasshopper
I’m watching a friend emotionally struggle as he looks for answers. There is no answer that will be acceptable to him, but that doesn’t stop his or our search.
Life And Depth - Grasshopper
For some, contemplating entering depth seems like death and, in a way, it is.
Certain: Knowing Without Any Facts - Grasshopper
For me, being certain is often devoid of any facts. I don't think I'm alone.
Is Your Toner Running Low? - Grasshopper
Anyone who's operated a copy machine can attest to being there when the toner cartridge was low. Their prints were not as sharp and defined as they were with the proper amount of toner.
You’ll Never Be Able To Describe You - Grasshopper
How much of your life have you spent trying to figure out and describe who you are? For most, it goes on for a lifetime.
To Create: Begin & Wait - Grasshopper
We've all experienced being creative but we traditionally don't know how to recreate that experience.
If Your Path To The Future Is The Same One You’ve Been On, You Have Your Future Now. - Grasshopper
The old adage that “tomorrow is promised to no one” only suggests the possibility that you may not be around tomorrow. If you happen to make it until tomorrow, the promise is this: Your future won’t be any different if the path you’re on is the same.
Oxymoron: A Leader With No Followers - Grasshopper
It does takes more than followers to be a leader. It takes initiative, a clear vision and the ability to communicate intrinsic enthusiasm. Once you have those qualities in place, followers will find you.
You Can Know What You Don’t Know - Grasshopper
The headline seems rather “riddle-ee” or like a conundrum, but not knowing is much deeper than that.
Allow Yourself To Feel; It’s A License To Live - Grasshopper
How many feelings do we attempt to chase away rather than give them the time of day?
If You’re Not Interested In The Answer, Don’t Ask The Question - Grasshopper
How many “make conversation” questions do we ask? More importantly, how often do we tune out when getting the answer? One of the biggest impediments to communication I’ve observed is the lack of paying attention to those we interact with.
You Don’t Need Any Spiritual Training - Grasshopper
Seems like we need a manual to get through life: "5-Steps to This," "7-Steps to That." We continually seek training for our conscious journey but there is no training necessary in the spiritual realm. You just have to get there.
Celebrate Even When Skies Are Cloudy - Grasshopper
Anyone seeking perpetual blue skies is caught in a marketer’s daydream.
Doubting Your Light Is Dousing Your Light - Grasshopper
We all have light to shine but most of us occlude it by casting shadows of doubt on its existence.
Life’s Immutable Truth: You Can Only Be Where You Are - Grasshopper
How many fights have you had with yourself about where you are or, more specifically, where you should be? Have you noticed that you always lose that fight?
Enough Is A Mindset, Not A Quantity - Grasshopper
Que Sera, Sera Is A Hands-Off Philosophy - Grasshopper
The lyrics from the song QUE SERA, SERA assert "whatever will be, will be" without ever considering our input in determining our future.
Beliefs: Your Strongest And Weakest Suit - Grasshopper
It may be hard to believe but our beliefs strengthen our resolve and weaken our ability to learn.
You Can’t Take The Next Step Until You Take This One - Grasshopper
We all experience changes in our lives – some are desired, many are not. When we get to the juncture of change, we often ask, “What’s next?” It seems the more actionable question is: “What now?”
Are You Here Or There? The Answer Determines The Quality Of Your Life - Grasshopper
Where do you spend most of your day – here or there? Here keeps you in touch with reality; there takes you off into illusion.
The Next Time You Make An Argument, Notice If You’re Arguing - Grasshopper
Socrates believed the first step to knowledge was recognizing our own ignorance. Are you ignoring the premise that arguing is an ignorant way of engaging with others?
Hiding From The Fear of Human Conditioning - Grasshopper
I am a world-class hider. I've come to realize that everyday human actions scare me to death and I default to pulling the covers over my head.
Retire From Being A Liar - Grasshopper
How many lies do we tell? Let’s be kind and say there’s not been a calculator invented that can count that high.
Taking The Next Step Is Difficult When You Don’t Know The Step You’re On Now - Grasshopper
Looking to make your next move? Odds are it won’t be fruitful if you step off from a place you’re not.
“Deserve” Is Just Another Way To Try And Explain Away Reality - Grasshopper
One of my claims is the notion of "Deserve" doesn't exist in reality. We made it up and it lets us down.
It Takes More Energy To Hate Than It Does To Love - Grasshopper
Love, at base, is who we are; it’s effortless. Hate has to be worked at continuously to keep it in place.
You’re Smarter Than Your Thinking - Grasshopper
You’re not as smart as you think; you’re smarter.
Decommissioning Your Conditioning - Grasshopper
We've all been conditioned. The result is our patterns – our conditioned way of doing things.
We Continually Put A Stop To What Isn’t Going For Us - Grasshopper
What do you think you have going for you? Can you validate it past your own opinion? If not, you won't be able to stop heading into the familiar wall you've crashed into before.
Exceptional, Without Exception, Requires More Effort Than Most Of Us Are Willing To Make - Grasshopper
Do you know someone who's exceptional at something? One thing about these folks seems abundantly clear to me: They love and are committed to whatever they excel at.
Being Upset With Upsets Is Upsetting - Grasshopper
It dawned on me recently that most of my upsets are the result of me being upset that the universe is not bending to my whims. What a revelation!
Lonely Is a Sensation - Grasshopper
Alone is an actual set of circumstances; lonely is a concept we made up to explain the sensation that we feel.
True: What You Do - Grasshopper
I’ve had a hard time with the word “truth” for a long time. Based on my experience, “truth” had too many interpretations, like “my truth,” “your truth” and that old standby “it’s the truth.”
Too Big To Handle A Small Request - Grasshopper
I have no evidence to back this up but it seems to me the beginning of the end happens when we become too big to handle a small request.
A More Active Life Leads To More Happy Accidents - Grasshopper
I’ve always liked the word “serendipity” but never knew its origin. It comes from the fairy tale The Three Princes of Serendip where the three princes were making accidental discoveries while they were in search of something else.
It Doesn’t Come When You Say So; You Say So When It Comes - Grasshopper
There are so many applications for this observation from The Grasshopper, but probably none bigger than when addressing the topic of forgiveness.
Options Create Choice - Grasshopper
Seems the most limiting thing I do with myself is limit my options. I suspect I’m not alone.
Brilliance Is Not A Surface Quality - Grasshopper
Our brilliance may show on the surface but its origin is much deeper.
For More Agreement, Abandon The Labels And Stick With The Facts - Grasshopper
It seems that labeling someone just gets people to line up on opposing sides of the definition.
Not Knowing What You Don’t Know Won’t Allow You To Grow. - Grasshopper
I don’t want you to go cold on me but I’m about to use the overused “Iceberg” analogy. Most of what we don’t know lives below the surface. To stop crashing into things, we have to become aware that they are there.
Waiting To Live Or Waiting To Die Is The Same Wait - Grasshopper
What are we waiting for? The answer seems to be something in the future. Yet both waiting and the future are mental constructs. Neither actually exists right now.
Argument Has Not Left Town- A Cause To Frown - Grasshopper
Do you like to argue? You will not find me in your company for long, or as a counter to your point. Argument, from my vantage point, is pointless.
Patience Leads To Poise - Grasshopper
My computer dictionary defines poise as “a state of balance or equilibrium.” A person with poise appears to me to be quite balanced and seems quite comfortable in their own skin.
Irritation Precedes Creation - Grasshopper
Look no further than the oyster. Beautiful pearls are created by the irritation the sand produces inside the manufacturing mollusks.
Dark Doesn’t Turn Bright Without Light - Grasshopper
If you have made it through a dark night of the soul, you can attest that it was a light that shone which showed you the escape route.
Notice What You Don’t Notice - Grasshopper
My notion is that we are considered to be who we are by others by the conditioning they observe in us. That’s only a partial picture. We are more than our conditioning.
Anytime You Begin, You Tap Inspiration On The Shoulder - Grasshopper
Are you waiting for inspiration? There's no need to wait. Inspiration is always on the heels of beginning.
Potential Is An Empty Promise - Grasshopper
The seed needs the soil otherwise you only possess the downside of potential.
Judgements Are Made Up, Not Real - Grasshopper
Judgements are always made up – in our mind.
Here We Are - Grasshopper
It seems most of our life we make arguments against being where we are. We rarely stop and notice, or acknowledge, our current location. This lack of admission causes all sorts of false starts and continued frustration.
It Will If I Let It - Grasshopper
Has anyone ever commented on a situation you were in by saying, “That must drive you nuts”? The revealing answer to that observation is: “It will if I let it.”
You Earn What You Deserve - Grasshopper
Even though "deserve" has better PR, "earn" will get you more of what you believe you're deserving of.
Dreaming: The Passport To Tomorrow - Grasshopper
I'm an advocate for living in the moment as long as the moment allows for some dreaming about tomorrow.
Self-Pity Is A Worn Out Ditty - Grasshopper
When we engage in self-pity, we are, as we used to say in radio, "a one hit wonder." We keep singing the same song that got us attention.
Reach Often And Multiply - Grasshopper
There is an advertising maxim that stands the test of time: Reach & Frequency. Reach represents the number of people in your audience and Frequency signifies how often your message is seen or heard by them.
Capture The Essence - Grasshopper
I believe we are mainly caught up with the wrong objective, namely “figuring it out.” It seems to me more experiential and rewarding to capture the essence.
Self Investment Is Deceiving - Grasshopper
The amount of people invested in who they’re not is not only deceiving, but limiting.
Being A ‘Know-it-All’ Makes You Hopelessly Helpless - Grasshopper
If you "know" all the answers and still have a problem, you know very little.
Playing The Odds Insures Your Life’s Results Remain at 50-50 - Grasshopper
If you never take a gamble, going forward you can count on your results being roughly the same as they’ve been in the past.
Our Personal Baggage: We’re Over-Packed For The Trip Of Life - Grasshopper
Over the years I have been fond of labeling someone I couldn’t cozy up to as having too much baggage. That meant they had too many obstacles in the way of me getting closer to them.
Success Is A Contact Sport - Grasshopper
Contact in this context is reaching out.
Creativity Comes From Nowhere - Grasshopper
"He's a real nowhere man living in his nowhere land" is how The Beatles characterized a marginal character. Truth be told, a "Nowhere Man (Woman)" lives outside the margins.
The Thinner Your Skin, The Larger Your Ego - Grasshopper
We all hold an image of who we are. What we don’t realize is that it’s a false god. Your image is not you, no more than your breath is you. Both are byproducts of our human existence but they are not you.
Misery: Staying In Your Head - Grasshopper
There's no denying it. Misery is a head-trip – one we can end before it begins.
Denial: Doubling Down On Dumb - Grasshopper
“Denial” and “Defensive” go hand-in-hand and they grab on to the lamest justifications one can imagine.
A Little Guilt Is Good - Grasshopper
The Grasshopper’s complete quote was, “A little guilt is good if it spurs you to right a wrong.”
I Don’t Know More; I’ve Just Experienced More - Grasshopper
We've all given advice, some solicited, most not. I've come to learn it's better to be asked. And when delivering that requested advice, I find it more productive to come from the angle of experience rather than a position of your superior knowledge.
Resolve To Evolve - Grasshopper
It’s been my experience that relatively few people, if any, change. I do find that people can evolve.
The Pièce De Résistance In Life Is Letting Go Of Resistance - Grasshopper
Once you master this piece, you experience much less opposition to what is and relieve yourself of one of life's biggest tensions.
Are You Starving At The Buffet? - Grasshopper
Seems we all have been deluded that there's not enough to go around. The biblical metaphor of the loaves and fishes shines a light on our limited thinking and opens us to the possibility of abundant options.
“Should” Keeps You In Your Head; “Action” Puts You Into Your Body - Grasshopper
Abe Lincoln told us that actions speak louder than words, but I don’t think he knew the side benefit of his assertion: The quieting of the mind.
What’s Popular Is Often Diversionary And Ineffective - Grasshopper
Do you remember the "Mood Ring"? It was a 1970s phenomenon: a ring with a stone that changed color based upon the temperature of the finger of the wearer. According to Wikipedia, most rings came with a color chart indicating the supposed mood of the wearer based upon the colors indicated on the ring.
It’s Not Advice, It’s Input - Grasshopper
I stopped giving advice a number of years ago because it too often seemed to fall on those who couldn't hear. Then I discovered input.
Re-Act vs. Create - Grasshopper
There are some actors that have one speed (Think Steven Seagal). That means they can only play one type of role. They re-act their previous role in every subsequent film they do. We are just like those uncreative actors every time we give the same response to a given stimulus.
The Silent Motivator: What You Don’t Know - Grasshopper
"You don't know what you don't know" doesn't mean you can't know.
You’re Not Going To Figure Out The Unknown By Debating. - Grasshopper
Debating contains "known" positions. The unknown hasn't positioned itself yet.
Hidden Resources Bring You Out Of Hiding - Grasshopper
I’ve always been at a loss when people ask me what I do. I could reply “hypnotist” or “people helper” or “seminar leader” or use some other term that doesn’t quite hit the mark.
Trapped By Your Religion - Grasshopper
Even atheists are trapped by their religion. They may not believe in God but they do believe in something.
Who Has The Life That You Want? - Grasshopper
Seems the global pastime is wanting a life other than the one we have. That's a life draining, never-ending trail of disappointment.
You’ll Never ‘Get Over’ Something That’s Under Wraps - Grasshopper
We’ve all been told to “get over it.” It’s a directive without directions.
The Gems Are Inside The Doggie Diamonds - Grasshopper
My Father had a euphemistic phrase for dog poop. He called it “Doggie Diamonds,” as in “Don’t step in the doggie diamonds.”
My Life Is . . . - Grasshopper
What is your life doing? It's doing something that's apart from your head – or what you think it's doing.
Change Your Behavior And Your Thoughts Will Change, Not The Other Way Around - Grasshopper
Seems we have it Bass Ackwards: "Change your thoughts and change your life" is one of the maxims we are offered. I believe that's an accurate statement, but it omits the step that precedes thought change: BEHAVIOR CHANGE.
Act In Your Own Best Interest - Grasshopper
It’s in our own best interest to act. Too often we muse and refuse, and by doing so our best interests are put on hold.
Cultivate Real Friends - Grasshopper
Friendship has taken on a much looser meaning in the digital age. Social media "friends" for the most part are acquaintances. That's not a bad thing unless you expect them to be there for you.
Action Diffuses Debate - Grasshopper
This note is a first cousin to one of The Grasshopper’s most popular messages: Doing Diffuses Fear.
Selflessness Leads You To Your Self - Grasshopper
You have to lose your “self” in order to find your self.
Selflessness Leads You To Your Self - Grasshopper
You have to lose your “self” in order to find your self.
In An Effort To Not Disappoint, We Disappoint - Grasshopper
Are you accommodating someone by telling them what you think they want to hear? Welcome to “Harry’s Used Car Lot.”
Try Not To Try - Grasshopper
Few things are as counter-productive as trying. Have you ever had the occasion where you or someone else was "trying too hard"? That's a trying experience – one that is best to outgrow.
Doing Your Best Is Not Enough - Grasshopper
“Everyone does their best” is a notion I had a hard time buying into. But experience has sold me.
Turn The Tables - Grasshopper
Lying Is A Protective Measure - Grasshopper
TV doctor Gregory House told us "everybody lies." What he didn't tell us was the rest of the story.
You Can’t Talk About What You Wonder About - Grasshopper
It’s too easy to blame it on a politically correct culture, but there are some things that are just not said that are often wondered about. I find that to be a bankrupting of creativity.
You’re Not Going To Like This - Grasshopper
Most people rail against this fact of life: You’re not who you profess to be.
Stop Running And Start Moving - Grasshopper
Looking to give emotional pain the runaround? Stop running and start moving.
Guilt Moves In Slow Motion - Grasshopper
I was talking with a friend the other day when she told me a story about her childhood. She was at the dinner table holding her baby brother when her mother poured soup in her bowl. The little brother in a flash reached for the bowl and scalded himself with the soup.
The One Thing Is No Thing - Grasshopper
Are you forever on the lookout for the “one thing” – the one thing that’s going to change your life? You’re not alone. I’m sorry to be the one to break the news but the one thing is a fictitious thing.
Does The Loudest One Win? - Grasshopper
I was talking to my friend Hali the other day and we were discussing people changing. I told her my friend Paul says that people don’t change. I also told her I agreed with that but I do believe they can evolve. She then squarely gobsmacked me with this: “You either evolve or you get louder.”
Is Patience Really Persistence? - Grasshopper
Don’t you have to be persistent to be patient? I think they are opposite sides of the same coin.
It’s Easy To Hate - Grasshopper
The road to hatred is an easy walk. All you have to do is follow a bunch of angry, unhappy people and you’ll get there with ease.
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