Someoneís Looking Out For Number One When They Speak In The Third Person - Grasshopper
Iím often amused by someone who refers to themselves in the third person because my experience is that donít have anyone elseís interest at heart but theirs, no matter how flowery their speech.
We experience over-the-top examples of third person speech in politics and sports, but itís everywhere. Rather than saying, ďMy plan for America ďor ďI had a good game,Ē itís ďSenator Joe Blowís plan for AmericaĒ or ďAH had a good game.Ē (AH stands for a**hole)
Perhaps we can forgive coddled athletes or out of touch politicians, but it becomes much more difficult when we have real world examples closer to home. And itís insanely problematic if we are the culprit.
Here is some more real world experience. I havenít yet met a third person referrer that has ever changed. It seems itís like eye color Ė you get it for life. I have met some who recognize it presents a problem for them when attempting to get what they want, so theyíve used temporary, deceptive, colored contact lenses, so to speak, rather than make the effort to change.
Please donít freak out if youíve ever done this; my experience is a lot of us have done so on occasion. Thatís not a problem. Itís the serial third person referrer you have to be careful around. To quote my late stepfather: ďThey will steal the eyes out of your head and tell you that you look better without them.Ē
I usually donít write a lot of rants but today is an exception because Iím noticing the third person practice is on the increase. If you are a manager and you have a potential hire in front of you using the third person, may I suggest you move on to someone else no matter how exceptional the resume. The headaches and heartaches it will save you are priceless.
If itís the guy who wants to cut your lawn, get someone else no matter how cheap their services are. You will pay for it on the back end if you go with them.
Third person referrers will flame out before their time whether itís in politics, sports or sitting at the helm of a John Deere.
Itís the easiest warning sign I know of to alert you that your best interest wonít be served by this person, but itís a sure bet theirs will.
If this is old news to you, I apologize for the droning. But if itís not something youíve ever paid attention to, it can be eye opening and pocketbook friendly to become aware.
Final thought: If youíre dealing with someone who speaks in this fashion, the best you can ever expect is to be third on their list.
All the best,
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