Hurting Others - Grasshopper

I’m always hesitant to ask a “why” question because it usually brings a never ending list of all-over-the-map answers. But I’ve been struck with one answer to this question: Why do we intentionally hurt others?

I’m sure there are countless answers but the one that tops my list is this: I want them to hurt as much as I do.

The person doing the hurting is hurting deeply themselves and, for whatever reason, they can’t communicate this to others and get empathy for their pain. So they devise a way to make you pay.

To them, this is the only way to get your attention. Some may not consciously map out a decision to hurt others or even know why they do. They just feel compelled to do so.

When you witness someone hurting you or others, let it serve as a bright, red flag that they need help.

This is not to say they shouldn’t be held accountable for their hurtful deeds. They should and they will. But if it’s redemption you want for them, recognize they’re hurting and do whatever you can to get them help.

If you’re unsuccessful in your attempts to assist because they resist, a proven way to get them to cease and desist is to remove yourself from their company. They’ll continue their wounding ways but their hurtful actions will no longer come your way.

Too often, we recognize too late and pay a painful price. Don’t let that be you. If you sense you’re getting close to the point of no return, it’s time to grab your go bag and put your body’s turbojet on afterburn.

All the best,