Relationships - Grasshopper

I don’t think anyone has the secret to relationships, just like no one has figured out the secret to parenting. Those secrets remain forever in the shadows, allowing us to only guess as to what they are.

We spend a lifetime learning how to relate to others, sometimes successfully; oftentimes not. There are strategies we learn that helps us manage our relationships, but that approach has us feel like we’re working an angle all the time, instead of enjoying our time with someone.

 

I think there is one secret worth knowing that will improve relationships. That’s our relationship with ourselves.

 

A totally forthright relationship with oneself fosters a comfort level within your own skin and allows you to transmit that vibration towards others.

 

An open relationship with yourself allows you the ability to recognize and accept your strengths and flaws and not attempt to hide either one from others. When you are a vulnerable, open book, you relate to the unfinished book in everyone else and fill in some of their missing chapters.

 

The other person gets a sense that you are just like them, and that makes you easier to relate to and like.

 

Learn to accept yourself “warts and all,” and notice how much easier it is to relate to those where there used to be a wall.

 

All the best,

John

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