The Death Of Two - Grasshopper

“One is the loneliest number” is not only a phrase from a popular old song, but also a comparison to what used to be: Two!

You wouldn’t know “one” is the loneliest number unless you had another number to reference it against.

 

This is not a math or English lesson; it’s about how relationships end.

 

Everyone who’s had a relationship dissolve has their story. And it seems each person in that relationship has their own version of it.

 

Pushing individual stories aside, let’s look at a common circumstance that most of these stories have.

 

One person drifts away from the other for whatever the stated reason. But one of the universal characteristics of one or both of the parties is: I’m so into me that I forgot about you. That means they are no longer focused on two.

 

It may not be apparent to you that you’re all alone when you’re in your head. No one else is in there with you. The more time you spend in there, the less time you have for someone else. Thus, I’m so into me that I forgot about you.

 

Sorry to report there is no “set and forget” in working relationships. The ones that remain as two have “set and reset” as their bonding glue.

 

This information is of little use to a relationship that has ended, but more useful to those starting anew. And it’s also valuable for those who recognize they’re spending too much time alone with their thoughts. This realization has them come out of their hideaway and start singing a different old song: Tea for Two.

 

If you’re the only one in a relationship, “two” is just an arranged marriage for you. Even if you stay together, your relationship can be summed up with some new math: 1 plus 1 equals over and done.

 

“Pay attention to your partner” is my parting advice. It lessens your side trips into self-absorption, and your life of two will regain its spice.

 

All the best,