Feel Better - Grasshopper

Ever wonder how one person’s affections gravitate from one to another? I don’t know for sure but I have a suspicion.

Perhaps you changed best friends in school or partners in a relationship. What made the difference?

 

I believe it’s how you felt in their presence. Short and sweet, you felt better in the new company than you did in the old.

 

What was the onset of the switch? You could make the case that you were either gravitating away from or gravitating towards a specific set of feelings. No matter what the initial impetus, the new association increased your elation.

 

We all set an environment that we live in and it may change over time. And during that transition, those in our sphere may not morph with us - setting up a scenario where they may decide whether to stay or go.

 

If they go, it will be in the direction of someone who makes them feel better, specifically about themselves.

 

Is there a way to prevent this from happening? I believe it comes down to being aware of the environment you’ve created and noticing what effect it’s having on those in your sphere. Then it’s a matter of communication about what’s working and what’s not. If, on the other hand, you set and forget, they’ll forget about you.

 

Final thought: Years ago I wrote something I entitled “Orbits.” Here is the last line from that piece: “Your attention is the currency of communication. If you’re not spending it on the people or things in your orbit, you may soon find them moonwalking away from you.”

 

All the best,

John