Explaining WHY Until You Die - Grasshopper
Explaining ourselves seems to be a way of life, for our entire life. Explaining is counterproductive and draining.
Explaining WHY will have your behaviors stay with you until you die.
If you really want to outgrow a habit pattern, first stop justifying it. “The reason I arrive late for everything is because I’m a scatterbrain.” That may be an accurate assessment but it does little to solve the problem of being late.
Better to notice the stepping stones that lead to tardy and start adjusting them one by one until you discover the pattern that gets you there on time.
If you have the same unsolved issue you had 10 years ago, it’s a pretty safe bet that you’re justifying your behavior.
“My mother was an awful dancer as was my grandmother. Therefore, I’m an awful dancer.” I have no doubt that you learned that pattern at the knee of your mother but that justification just keeps you off the dance floor.
The biggest justification that keeps us from moving forward is, “That’s just the way I am.” No, that’s just the way we were conditioned.
I don’t know what others justify; I only know what I do. In every case, I’m attempting to shirk the responsibility of doing what’s necessary in the name of justification.
Got a little time on your hands? Explore and adjust what you justify. If you don’t, you’ll probably have the problem until you die.
All the best,
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