It’s a good thing to get lots of answers if you are seeking general information, but not so great when you’re seeking specific solutions, because a scattered method only raises Cain.

Whose fault was it that your marriage, friendship, business or relationship with a family member fell apart? Notice there are many answers to those questions depending on who you ask. The many answers are many sides to an unsolvable story. None of those answers provide a satisfactory solution.

A solution requires ONE answer. In order to get that answer, we have to stop asking questions that seek to assign blame and provide never ending thought loops in our head. Many of those questions begin with the word “Why.”

“Why” will always get you “Because” and a litany of answers that don’t provide solutions, just justifications to stay mad and stuck.

Better answers require better questions, and the best person to ask is yourself - not your conditioned self (our personal version of Mini Me), but our vast self that homes in on that ONE answer.

Our vast self is always accessible, but access to it is cut off when we ask “Why?” “Why” is the realm of our conditioned, conscious mind. It will always respond to why questions ad nauseam and preoccupy us and prevent us access to the bigger database. We’re focused on the wrong source for a solution and it all begins with the wrong question.

“How” is one word that will always grant you access to your “Solutions Central.” The keys for getting the answer are presumption and patience. Presume that there is a part of you that has a solution and then give that part of you time to work.

Think of the time you forgot someone’s name. You did all the conscious tricks that you learned, like going through the alphabet, but they still remained nameless. You eventually let it go and, POOF, just like magic the name appeared. You knew part of you knew it and with proper time, without conscious assistance, it appeared.

That’s how our vast answer database works. It doesn’t need our conscious interference, only a proper question.

If the intention of your question is to assign blame or find out why, you will spend a lifetime getting answers that only make you cry.

Get in the practice of asking yourself “How” type questions and then go about your business and give them time to work. If you are looking for instant answers, this isn’t the method to try, but you’ll have instant access to your vast database when you stop asking “Why?”

The only question left is: Are you patient enough to wait for the answer?

All the best,

John